Until recently mum lived at home alone , no carers. I visited from 80 miles away weekly , Spent the day , did her finances , took her out , maybe a bit of shopping or just a good gossip. Her memory was bad and she was unsteady on her feet.
Now , following a fall and broken hip , she is in hospital. Its been a month. Her memory is so much worse. She thinks her home is where she ws a child and forgets family members etc.
I had been driving up and down every other day , sleeping at my sons (still 25 miles from hospital) or hotel. Then when my brother went on holiday I booked into a hotel for a week. This week I stayed in my mums house (that was grim (another story)
All this time she has had visits twice a day from me , or my brother , or sometimes odd visits by others.
This is not sustainable . I have a home and partner who i am away from . With her memory so bad would it really matter if she has no visitors for a day or two.
She is probably going to D2A also in her local area and then likely a care home. So visiting will be ongoing. My guilt at not being there is a worry. I dont want to move her from her local area (then my brother would have the problem)
Now , following a fall and broken hip , she is in hospital. Its been a month. Her memory is so much worse. She thinks her home is where she ws a child and forgets family members etc.
I had been driving up and down every other day , sleeping at my sons (still 25 miles from hospital) or hotel. Then when my brother went on holiday I booked into a hotel for a week. This week I stayed in my mums house (that was grim (another story)
All this time she has had visits twice a day from me , or my brother , or sometimes odd visits by others.
This is not sustainable . I have a home and partner who i am away from . With her memory so bad would it really matter if she has no visitors for a day or two.
She is probably going to D2A also in her local area and then likely a care home. So visiting will be ongoing. My guilt at not being there is a worry. I dont want to move her from her local area (then my brother would have the problem)