Our mum has middle stage dementia. She takes Memantine. We have helpers go in 3 times a week, meals delivered every day and my brother and I visit, call and help out whenever we get a call because something has gone missing.
However we have had people contact us to say mum has been saying things to them that are quite worrying, about us (her son and daughter).
This is mostly about money in that we're stealing from her, we've taken over ownership of her house, we're waiting for her to die and we're trying to kill her dogs by slitting their throats.
This is all untrue but it is so so upsetting. Mum can "present" very well and sound like she has full capacity. To those she speaks to on the phone or sees briefly when out and about they wouldn't see any significant changes apart from she doesn't look after her appearance like she used to.
Mum is quite sharp and nasty with us but lovely with everyone else.
We can't do anything right.
We just want her to be safe, in her own home with her dogs, in a familiar area where she can do what she wants to do. But the stories she's telling people are upsetting us and we feel like we're having to justify ourselves and actions to everyone. It's starting to affect us both, emotional and physical health . 😔 just needed to post as we're at our wits end and don't know where to turn.
However we have had people contact us to say mum has been saying things to them that are quite worrying, about us (her son and daughter).
This is mostly about money in that we're stealing from her, we've taken over ownership of her house, we're waiting for her to die and we're trying to kill her dogs by slitting their throats.
This is all untrue but it is so so upsetting. Mum can "present" very well and sound like she has full capacity. To those she speaks to on the phone or sees briefly when out and about they wouldn't see any significant changes apart from she doesn't look after her appearance like she used to.
Mum is quite sharp and nasty with us but lovely with everyone else.
We can't do anything right.
We just want her to be safe, in her own home with her dogs, in a familiar area where she can do what she wants to do. But the stories she's telling people are upsetting us and we feel like we're having to justify ourselves and actions to everyone. It's starting to affect us both, emotional and physical health . 😔 just needed to post as we're at our wits end and don't know where to turn.