My MIL is 88 and takes no meds of any kind. She will not go to the Dr and will not leave her house. My husband and I bring her food and take care of her needs. In her words we are horrible people. We take things, move things and destroy paperwork and locks on her house. Which of course is not true. She said police had her blocked in looking for my husband (her son) and tells us that she has neighborhood security watching her house. She talks so bad about us and all we want to do is help her. We get her groceries and of course she doesn’t want anything we buy but she will not tell us what she wants and will not go anywhere with us because she thinks someone will come in her house and Steal stuff. She said my husband comes in at night and does things in her house. We do not have keys to her house and we live an hour away but she can never tell us what we take. We hate her living alone and scared she may burn her house down since she does not remember things that she does but accuses us of. She now does not remember how to use her cell phone and uses an old rotary phone because she said remotely we have messed up her phone. And we have secret websites that she sees on her iPad where we write stuff about her. We know it is time she needs assisted living but what do we do to get her there? She will not leave her house to see a Dr? How do we get her into an assisted living. She thinks we are already horrible people she will not do anything we say? We feel it’s dangerous her living alone and feel she needs to be medicated?