@MaNaAk, any of us who have cared (in any capacity) for someone with dementia will understand that a care home is a legitimate and reasonable choice that none of us make lightly.
One person cannot do all the care, 24/7, with no help or support and not suffer from it. A care home has an entire staff to handle all aspects of care in an environment designed and adapted to provide for the varying needs of adult residents with varying levels of cognition and their other medical needs.
You don’t need to defend your choices to us.
If your invisibles think caring for your dad at home is so easy, maybe they should have done it themselves! That was tongue in cheek.
I was never my mother’s live in carer and never would have attempted it. Trying to help her long distance was horrible. Being her carer with her in a care home still isn’t easy. Nothing about dementia is easy. I’m sorry you’re having such a difficult time.