Absolutely! That part came out wrong. What I meant was some people just keep quiet because their relatives are getting their fees paid, they're not having to contribute anything.
So the relatives who aren't paying don't care as much as the ones who are contributing? They're more prepared to overlook any wrong doing than you.
It might be that the first comment "came out wrong" but the second one isn't much better in my view.
Is the implication that people who are LA funded more likely to "turn a blind eye" to rule breaks, I think not.
They also have a first defence not open to self funders, if Social Services get a lot of complaints from relatives of people they're funding about a home they can investigate, they have to, as that person is there under their care so they are responsible.
Any care home that has LA funded residents is far more bothered about losing that business and the harm to their business's reputation that would cause.
I know that some of the LA funded relatives have issues with their care and do send social workers to the home to investigate, the home are way more frightened of that than a self funders relative complaining, they can just dismiss you as a Moaning Minnie, not that you are but it's much easier to give a self funder notice if you don't like the relatives than it is when you have to justify it to social services.
Out of interest how do you know who is and who isn't self funding? What about the people who; give up all their pensions private and state and get some LA funding are they LA funded in their attitude or self funded?
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