thanx all for the support. Been sorting things out as best I can, few arguments with my bro, all my responsability it seems. So, paperwork to sort, apply for a funeral payment from the social, the insurance mum had was not enough, its from the (70's wince). But am gonna carry out her wishes, inspite of my bro actually asking me to break a promise to mum (she's not around to know is she?) my aunt is coming from edinburgh with her family, great lot, so will hav some family support
hugs
David