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Loiner

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Oct 29, 2005
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Leeds, UK
I must of done something terrible in a prev life, Informing the ppl who need to know about mums death I told the council as we live in a council house, they won't let me live in the house. ASAP, they are gonna move me to a 1 bed flat from this 3 bed house I've lived in for 18yrs, nice of em eh?

hugs
David
 

maggier

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Jan 9, 2006
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talk about "kick a man when he's down."

Just as long as you know people are thinking about you. I don't know if it worth trying to fight the council because they will just say that your house is a "family home" which I suppose technically it is. It must all seem too much to cope with just now, if this were to happen maybe 1 year from now you may feel better about it but it's all too much I imagine right now.

Take care and look after yourself. Glad you have supportive relatives coming for you.

Maggie x x
 

Loiner

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Oct 29, 2005
73
Leeds, UK
no, I can't fight keeping it, but i can fight them forcing me to move and making me pay for the move, they said they wouldn't, time to get the cab, maybe my mp involved.

David
 

twink

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Oct 28, 2005
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I absolutely agree David! I thought, but of course don't really know for sure that if you had lived in a house and a parent died you could take over the tenancy? Definitely see the CAB and your MP!

Twink/Sue
 

Amy

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Jan 4, 2006
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Oh David, bureaucrats can be so insensitive. You have so much to deal with at the moment. Have your relatives arrived yet? If it was me I would have to deal with one thing at a time, and arrangements for your mum must be filling your mind. I am thinking of and praying for you.

Take care

Amy
 

Loiner

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Oct 29, 2005
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Leeds, UK
my relatives won't arrive until the funeral which will be sometime next week.
A friend online suggested something and I did it, I rang a reporter at my local evening paper which covers all 4 counties of yorkshire, she's interested in my story about what the council has done and is going to talk to her editor, she's going to ring me back tomorrow and if they do the story come and take a photograph of me at home.

David
 

twink

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Oct 28, 2005
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Glad to hear it. They don't like the press being involved. I live right by a railway line and the railway company in question refused to erect any sort of fence at the bottom of our garden. The original fence had disappeared. I had written to them several times and sent photos showing that my grandkids could get right onto the track. They kept writing back saying that it was 'adequate' so I got in touch with Anglia News and they contacted the railway company and the whole road now has a brand new pallasaide fence going up.

You really don't need this at such a time. I'm so sorry you are having so many upsetting things happening to you right now.

Twink/Sue
 

Norman

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Oct 9, 2003
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Birmingham Hades
Go for it David
We were on Midlands Today a few weeks back as a unhappy carer.
It caused a few upsets .
I wanted a copy of the film and permission to use it on TP,but I have heard nothing.
Ask for yours if it happens,but ask before .
Norman
 

Loiner

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Oct 29, 2005
73
Leeds, UK
actually, no permission is needed in my case, all stories are put up on thier web edition of the paper so all it will take is a url.
I am not banking on anything tho, wait and see what the report says this afternoon.
Now off to collect medical certificate its ready now

hugs
David
 

Loiner

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Oct 29, 2005
73
Leeds, UK
got death certificate, official cause of death Septacaemia, secondary cause pneumonia, dementia not mentioned at all, i thought it would be
 
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Canadian Joanne

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David, I don't know why but the medical profession seems to shy away from stating AD as the cause of death, even though it started all the problems which brought on the various medical situations.

Since the heart stops beating for all of us, perhaps the cause of death for everyone is heart failure. Yes, I'm being sarky.

It just bothers me that AD is never mentioned. I think it should be front & centre, so people can realize the devastation. I still have people who say "But your mother won't die from Alzheimer's, will she?". Her specialist is a great doctor, he always refers to AD as a terminal disease & that it kills people.

Sorry, don't mean to unload on you at such a time. Please accept my apologies.

Joanne
 

Loiner

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Oct 29, 2005
73
Leeds, UK
joanne, nothing to apologise for, I agree 100% with what u said.
Mum wouldn't of got a chest infection that went pneumonia, if she hadn't wanted bed all the time, she couldn't drink properly, so didn't pee enough, thus causing the water infection that led to spetacaemia, both caused by the dementia.
As far as I am concerned Dementia killed my mum.

hugs
David

P.S. thats why I said official cause, in other words, wot the doc said.
 

Dearth

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May 27, 2005
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My deepest condolences David - and sorry to hear about your local council and the hassle you're having.

Hope things go well with it - good luck and my very best wishes.

:)

N.
 

Mirium

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Oct 29, 2005
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Surrey
Thinking of you

My deepest sympathy David. You can certainly take comfort in knowing that you did your best for your beloved Mum right down to the end of her fight. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.

Do please keep posting wont you??!! Us newer ones need the benefit of your acquired knowledge and advice to help us to succeed in doing what you have done so very well, improving the quality of life of our loved ones.

Take care of yourself, - Mirium
 

Loiner

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Oct 29, 2005
73
Leeds, UK
I buried mum this morning in a quiet, dignified funeral. Thanx to all for your wishes.
I have also got a solicitor to fight the council so I can stay here, fingers xxed

hugs to all

David
 

Mirium

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Oct 29, 2005
23
Surrey
A sad day for you today David,
It is often after the funeral, that the reality of a new situation sets in, so I hope you can be with friends who can help you adjust.

I hope you get a good result with your home and are able to stay, you could certainly do without the hassel of moving right now. Let's hope you have a good Housing Officer, one with a heart!!

Mirium
 

connie

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Mar 7, 2004
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Frinton-on-Sea
Was thinking of you this morning, and it was cold but bright here. Hope everything went as well as it could. Now get some rest. Lots of hugs, Connie