Deepest sympathies to you - Thankfully you were with your Mum and you know now that she is at peace. You have been terrific in your care for her and we can all learn so much from you. Very best wishes BeckyJan
You will always be at peace in the knowledge that you were with her till the very last and that you did all you could. And your mother went knowing that you cared so much and that you were by her side.
thx all, I remember last night, she smiled at me, knew me and reached for my hand and squeezed it.
She was moved to ward 27 btw, where they all knew her over the past 5 yrs thru her arthritis probs.
When she'd gone they gave me time and when i was about to leave they all hugged and and told me stories of times mum had been in before, and what she'd said about me, that was so comforting
I'm glad your Mum's passing was peaceful, & that she knew she was cherished & loved at the end of her long journey.
Don't worry any more about the remarks made recently by misinformed or tactless people.
You know, as we do, that you did everything possible for her, and I hope that gives you peace.
thanx all for the support. Been sorting things out as best I can, few arguments with my bro, all my responsability it seems. So, paperwork to sort, apply for a funeral payment from the social, the insurance mum had was not enough, its from the (70's wince). But am gonna carry out her wishes, inspite of my bro actually asking me to break a promise to mum (she's not around to know is she?) my aunt is coming from edinburgh with her family, great lot, so will hav some family support
Dear David, Sorry to hear about the sad loss of your Mum. I lost mine in November and know how empty life can feel. Don't be afraid to cry , but also let yourself smile about all the happy memories. At first you might only see the last few days and months of her life but gradually you can see further into the past to the better times. I sometimes felt guilty that I could have done more, even though in reality we know we did our best. Now if ever I feel that way, I think of something good we shared or care that was given. You will find that there are much more of these memories. Thinking of you, Zan.