Not been here for a while. Mum fell on Easter weekend fortunately I had just walked in. She broke her shoulder and was ambulanced to hospital. After various hospital moves we transferred her to a nursing home as she is unable to use her right arm and can do nothing for herself. She thinks she has only been there a week where as it has been six weeks so far. She has lots of visitors. At last I know she is safe, well cared for and in good hands. She is still completely in denial about her condition and has no short term memory at all. "where am I? How did I get here? Why am I here?" Is the constant loop. Some evenings I get a call asking to go home and we delay things.... When your shoulder is mended, when you have seen the doctor. She has it fixed in her mind that she has lots of people at home and forgets she has done nothing for herself for the last two years almost. Now my brother wants to take her home with a live in career who he will be interviewing next week. I don't want to be part of this as I am really worried about moving her again. Once she gets home I fear we will get nasty Mum back again (she always resurfaces when she is not in public). She is all sweetness and light to the nurses but is so confused she has not a clue who is going on. She has just been on the phone and has no idea we we there this afternoon and rings demanding I go and get her. So, to move or not to move? None of us know the future but to be honest I DREAD her home coming. On her own territory she will once again become nasty I fear and I worry no carer will stand it. Then there are holidays and breaks to consider. Shopping to be done all sorts of things which I am now finally free from doing. I live near her and my brother is further away and always on holiday. What if we get her home and it all goes wrong? She may well lose her room and then end up in no mans land. She accepts the current home as she is "convalescing while her shoulder mends in a nice private hospital" God what a tangled web we weave..... Because of course there is NOTHING WRONG WITH HER!!! I think moving her is a huge risk. We already had one disaster with another home and now she is content (mostly) apart from her sun downing phone calls. For the sake of saving around 100 pounds a week I think , bringing her home to have a private live in carer is a huge risk. I would really value other opinions and experiences of doing this if anyone is out there please. I just am so scared of rocking the boat. Thank you for your time.