Hi
@Woo2
Yes, I’m trying to think of my lovely man being well cared for and lots of people around. I know he got very lonely.
I think big brother enjoys being alone for a few days, just him and nature. I spend a few hours with him while he sets up, watch the ducks making lots of noise and the swans gliding around the lake. It’s very peaceful. This is when he might mention how thing are at home and maybe make comments on how he feels. He’s not big on talking about his feelings
His son used to join him years ago, but not for years. It wouldn't be possible now as it’s not walking distance and my car is rammed with all the equipment. No room for another person or the additional tent, rods etc. Who knew how much “stuff” is needed to catch a few fish
I did say at the time, that my world had shrunk to four walls. I went food shopping, but it was a mad dash, no time for chatting or meeting anyone. The TV, if it was on, was for mindless films. No news as it was too depressing and life was depressing enough without that. I now realise just how isolated I became in those last eight months.
It will feel pretty weird when you do go out again, especially walking a dog. The “old days” of stopping for a chat have gone. Some people don’t want anyone to touch their animals and others shy away from any animals coming too close to them. It’s not the sociable thing it used to be. It’s a bit sad really. Pooch is very confused about why people are not petting him.
Obviously, going back to the day centre is a personal choice. I guess you need to weigh up the pros and cons. Your mum enjoyed it and you get a break. I don’t know if it’s better to jump right in with lots of days, or ease you all back in with a day a week at first. Either will cause disruption imho
You could try putting a mask on yourself and walking around wearing it, see how she reacts. Make it “normal” so she doesn’t worry.
Pooch is asleep (for a change), head resting in my ankle ... how can he be comfortable???? I’ll pass on the hugs when he wakes up lol. I’m sure he’ll be as appreciative of them as I am