Step mother's nursing home fees.

[brianr58]

I went to the hospital and saw the mental health nurse and she advised me an assessment has been done and my step mother qualifies for NHS funding,
She did however state that the number of homes which can have her is very limited due to behaviour problems.
She said 3 months funding will be initially granted and another assessment should be done after 3 months but she said the assessments are taking nearer to 5 months to get around to.
She said NHS funding will then continue for another 3 months even if she not qualify but the nurse has said my step mother is unlikely to live much in to 2018.
When I was walking out I was approached by the social worker and she was annoyed as this was going to cost the NHS a lot of money.
She again said I should sell the bungalow but I told the social worker to sell her house and pay the fees if she was that worried about it.

 

[jenniferpa]

She again said I should sell the bungalow but I told the social worker to sell her house and pay the fees if she was that worried about it.

And for this I don't blame you at all.

As a matter of interest, was this social worker from the LA or from the hospital?

 

[nicoise]

I went to the hospital and saw the mental health nurse and she advised me an assessment has been done and my step mother qualifies for NHS funding,
She did however state that the number of homes which can have her is very limited due to behaviour problems.
She said 3 months funding will be initially granted and another assessment should be done after 3 months but she said the assessments are taking nearer to 5 months to get around to.
She said NHS funding will then continue for another 3 months even if she not qualify but the nurse has said my step mother is unlikely to live much in to 2018.
When I was walking out I was approached by the social worker and she was annoyed as this was going to cost the NHS a lot of money.
She again said I should sell the bungalow but I told the social worker to sell her house and pay the fees if she was that worried about it.

Great answer! Totally inappropriate comment from the social worker. Your stepmother is perfectly entitled to have care costs paid by the NHS, and she obviously meets the criteria.

I’m glad all is sorted now, and you can put this behind you.

 

[brianr58]

And for this I don't blame you at all.

As a matter of interest, was this social worker from the LA or from the hospital?

Hi jenniferpa

The social worker was from the council.
I understand the council and hospital social workers work in the same office.

 

[Pete R]

She again said I should sell the bungalow but I told the social worker to sell her house and pay the fees if she was that worried about it.

 

[Slugsta]

If your stepmother has to be sectioned, it is possible that the payment issue will become moot anyway.

 

[brianr58]

Just had a lady come round from the Care Home Selection Service. Several homes have refused my step mother already.
The lady said there are homes which specialise with bad behaviour problems but the nearest one she could think of is about 10 miles away and it is not on a good transport route from where I live.
This is not bothering me as I have a car and my step mother has only a short time to live.

If your stepmother has to be sectioned, it is possible that the payment issue will become moot anyway.

My step mother has now been sectioned. When I visited her the social worker came to me again and said I should sell the bungalow to pay her fees
as I do not need it. My twin daughters both get married in 2018 and the proceeds of that bungalow will be welcomed by them.

 

[Havemercy]

Just had a lady come round from the Care Home Selection Service. Several homes have refused my step mother already.
The lady said there are homes which specialise with bad behaviour problems but the nearest one she could think of is about 10 miles away and it is not on a good transport route from where I live.
This is not bothering me as I have a car and my step mother has only a short time to live.



My step mother has now been sectioned. When I visited her the social worker came to me again and said I should sell the bungalow to pay her fees
as I do not need it. My twin daughters both get married in 2018 and the proceeds of that bungalow will be welcomed by them.

I seriously think that you need to complain about this social worker. Are you sure she is a professional social worker - as it sounds to me that she does not know what she is talking about. Find out her name and say that you will be complaining to her manager - and her professional body if necessary. This is completely inappropriate in my opinion. Good luck!

 

[brianr58]

I have complained to her manager this morning. He said councils and the NHS are short of money. If I don't get a satisfactory response I will be writing to the head of Social Services and the leader of the council. I think the next stage is my MP.

 

[jenniferpa]

He said councils and the NHS are short of money.

Yes they are, but that doesn't mean that gives them the right to lie to people.

 

[brianr58]

Yes they are, but that doesn't mean that gives them the right to lie to people.

Hello Everyone

Just to let you know after all this fuss my step mother died peacefully in hospital this afternoon.
Obviously there is work to be done but I am going to go ahead with my complaints as other people could be rushed in to selling houses etc which could add to the grief.
I am seriously thinking about going to live in the bungalow and selling the house but I do want to think things over,

 

[Havemercy]

Hello Everyone

Just to let you know after all this fuss my step mother died peacefully in hospital this afternoon.
Obviously there is work to be done but I am going to go ahead with my complaints as other people could be rushed in to selling houses etc which could add to the grief.
I am seriously thinking about going to live in the bungalow and selling the house but I do want to think things over,

I am so sorry for your loss but glad that your step mother's passing was peaceful.

 

[Slugsta]

Hi Brian, I am very sorry for your loss - thank you for letting us know.

I do agree that you should continue with your complaint if you have the time and energy. IMHO the SW was well out of order and her statement that you would have to sell up is completely untrue in your situation. What you do with the house is nothing to do with her!

 

[Shedrech]

sad news brianr58
I hope there is some comfort for you that she was peaceful
best wishes

 

[Cat27]

I’m so sorry. My thoughts are with you.

 

[Izzy]

I'm so sorry to read your news. Sending my condolences and wishing you strength for the time to come.

 

[brianr58]

Hi Brian, I am very sorry for your loss - thank you for letting us know.

I do agree that you should continue with your complaint if you have the time and energy. IMHO the SW was well out of order and her statement that you would have to sell up is completely untrue in your situation. What you do with the house is nothing to do with her!

I'm so sorry to read your news. Sending my condolences and wishing you strength for the time to come.

I must say I had some attachment to my step mother but nothing like as much as to my own mother or my 2 daughters or father.
Oddly my wife was having hospital treatment at the time my mother died and my father said he was more worried about my wife than his. My mother was in her 80's so I do understand his thoughts.
I will be making the complaints and will let you know the outcome,
Mum did object to her wealth going to another family and that is why she split the ownership of the bungalow in to Tenants in Common so I was guaranteed to get her half of the bungalow which she had earned.
Of course a deed was set up giving my step mother a life interest when Dad died but it gave her no ownership. Dad's half was transferred to me.

 

[canary]

Oh I am so sorry to hear about your MIL

Yes, do continue with your complaint

 

[Pete R]

Wish you all the best for the future.

 

[jaymor]

Sorry to hear your news, my condolences to the family.