1. Expert Q&A: Protecting a person with dementia from financial abuse - Weds 26 June, 3:30-4:30 pm

    Financial abuse can have serious consequences for a person with dementia. Find out how to protect a person with dementia from financial abuse.

    Sam, our Knowledge Officer (Legal and Welfare Rights) is our expert on this topic. She will be here to answer your questions on Wednesday 26 June between 3:30 - 4:30 pm.

    You can either post questions >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll answer as many as we can on the day.

  1. Selinacroft

    Selinacroft Registered User

    Oct 10, 2015
    937
    I have noticed this last week dad seems to spend even longer than usual in the bathroom with more frequent visits including a visit during the night when he normally uses commode. I asked him earlier (to cover my observation) if he needed a constipation drink as he had been eating more lately (he hasn't). He said no he was fine.
    His mobility is very poor and shuffles slowly on zimmer. Bathroom visits is only exercise he has, so in one way I don't want to discourage it.
    Is this a common thing with advancing dementia? He doesn't (touch wood) have any incontinents yet. No UTIs that I can detect.
     
  2. stanleypj

    stanleypj Registered User

    Dec 8, 2011
    10,561
    North West
    Look at the positives. Your dad can get to the bathroom on his own - that's a good thing. He's going more often than usual - that may not be a bad thing and it's probably better than going less often than usual.

    If the trend continues and is still worrying you it might be reassuring to get a medical opinion.
     
  3. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

    Jul 5, 2015
    624
    Female
    stoke on trent
    My dad is constantly in the bathroom from 12 midnight to 7am and not necessarily using the loo. Xx
     
  4. Spamar

    Spamar Registered User

    Oct 5, 2013
    6,844
    Suffolk
    When OH was in the bathroom for ages, it was because he didn't know where to go/ what to do. He waited until I came and 'rescued' him, telling him/taking him to the appropriate place.
     
  5. marionq

    marionq Registered User

    Apr 24, 2013
    5,589
    Female
    Scotland
    When I saw your thread I thought I had found someone else obsessed with Washing. John has the opposite approach to most people with dementia in that he showers every morning and I have to drag him out. He stands under the hot water constantly soaping and rinsing. It is maddening when you are in a hurry but it would be so much worse if he wouldn't wash at all.

    I guess it's just another area where you go with the flow.
     
  6. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

    Jul 5, 2015
    624
    Female
    stoke on trent
    My dad is obsessed with cleaning himself even with water from the toilet he rubs his bum and legs so much with toilet paper that he has rubbed himself sore... I don't know what to do about it.. He will also sit in his chair and have an imaginary wash using his handkerchief... He is driving me to despair with this obsession xx
     
  7. sleepless

    sleepless Registered User

    Feb 19, 2010
    3,232
    Female
    The Sweet North
    Pun intended? Lol.
     
  8. Crag

    Crag Registered User

    Jan 3, 2015
    76
    So I haven't the only Dad who frequents the bathroom. I'm surprised my Dad has skin left on his face with the number of shaves he has in a day.

    Maybe I shouldn't complain as it keeps him out of mischief, but then we are having to have a seperate bathroom built as nobody else can get in there when they need to :rolleyes:
     
  9. Ozzy71

    Ozzy71 Registered User

    Nov 23, 2015
    26
    My dad lovers a shower! He would have 10 a day - partly because he cant remember if he has one but he just loves standing in the warm water. We are surprised he doesn't wash himself away. He also likes to throughly wash plates and cutlery, sweep floors and wipe down work surfaces - thinking of hiring him out! (Joke) :)
     
  10. Selinacroft

    Selinacroft Registered User

    Oct 10, 2015
    937
    Thank you all for your replies. It has given me food for thought- I imagined him sitting on the loo but perhaps he is at the basin! :)
    Don't think I will ever be able to develop this love of Dad's of washing into washing the kitchen! We can but dream
     
  11. Risa

    Risa Registered User

    Apr 13, 2015
    483
    Essex
    Is there a way of checking what your Dad is actually doing in the bathroom? If he needs to visit it frequently and spends a lot time in there then at his age he could have a prostate problem. Maybe worth a visit to the GP to check out?
     
  12. Selinacroft

    Selinacroft Registered User

    Oct 10, 2015
    937
    Hi Risa
    Thanks - yes he does have a prostate problem and on Tamsolusin, but no cancer. He also has stage 4 kidney disease which also means frequent visits.
     
  13. NanLorac

    NanLorac Registered User

    May 14, 2012
    686
    Female
    Scotland
    My husband used to spend ages in the toilet.

    When we went on holiday and took him to a disabled toilet that's when I found out he was seeing the toilet and trying to sit down looking at it, then moving and trying to sit down but still looking at the toilet. Since the holiday I have taken him to the toilet as he just can't work out how to get his body onto the toilet. This is now happening when he needs to sit down anywhere outside our home.
     

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