Hello everybody,
My name is John and I am writing you about my grandmother, a fantastic 94 years old woman. When I mean fantastic I really mean it, a woman that took care of everyone and never ask any people for anything.
She lived in her own apartment, but didn't leave the house as my mum, my dad or me came to bring her groceries. Add to that, we spoke about 3-5 times per day with her on the phone.
She was a really really sane person. Had her small fixations, but that came with age.
Until thursday.
Thursday when we called her in the morning she told us she tripped and her hand is bad. We rushed her to the hospital and indeed it was and needed to be operated, but we put it in a gypsum because an operation at this age is not recommended. So my parents took her their home to take care of her during the recovery.
All went semi well until monday. In the morning she was good, at lunch time she started talking about some basil no one understood what about. At 17:00 she couldn't recognize my mother and my father, I rushed there and she knew me. I left about 20:00.
Then, at 2 in the morning the phone call that killed every inch of me came: My mom was crying, while my grandma was shouting in the background they are trying to kill her and take her apartment.
Duo to covid, the ambulance came in 3 hours, 3 hours when she tried to hit them with her gypsum, phone or anything. The calmed her down and said simple: dementia.
Nothing prepared me for that. I am really a though cookie, or I consider myself at 33, but since that phone call until later on I could stop my hands from shaking. I was on the phone early in the morning with elderly homes to take her, to avoid a tragedy. All of them had 24 hours policy due to covid, but I somehow managed to take her to get special help with people that are prepared, but most of all, an elderly home that actually takes care of her.
Her mom went the same way, dementia. So probably is genetic.
I am calm now, as it is for the best, I think, but I am beyond broken. I can't understand how something like this can happen so quicky, without a sign, without anything.
That woman raised me, raised everyone, she doesn't deserve this **** to happen to her. It is really not fair.
So, please, If anyone has some input on this, do share.
It really help to talk with people that went through this.
Thank you,
John
My name is John and I am writing you about my grandmother, a fantastic 94 years old woman. When I mean fantastic I really mean it, a woman that took care of everyone and never ask any people for anything.
She lived in her own apartment, but didn't leave the house as my mum, my dad or me came to bring her groceries. Add to that, we spoke about 3-5 times per day with her on the phone.
She was a really really sane person. Had her small fixations, but that came with age.
Until thursday.
Thursday when we called her in the morning she told us she tripped and her hand is bad. We rushed her to the hospital and indeed it was and needed to be operated, but we put it in a gypsum because an operation at this age is not recommended. So my parents took her their home to take care of her during the recovery.
All went semi well until monday. In the morning she was good, at lunch time she started talking about some basil no one understood what about. At 17:00 she couldn't recognize my mother and my father, I rushed there and she knew me. I left about 20:00.
Then, at 2 in the morning the phone call that killed every inch of me came: My mom was crying, while my grandma was shouting in the background they are trying to kill her and take her apartment.
Duo to covid, the ambulance came in 3 hours, 3 hours when she tried to hit them with her gypsum, phone or anything. The calmed her down and said simple: dementia.
Nothing prepared me for that. I am really a though cookie, or I consider myself at 33, but since that phone call until later on I could stop my hands from shaking. I was on the phone early in the morning with elderly homes to take her, to avoid a tragedy. All of them had 24 hours policy due to covid, but I somehow managed to take her to get special help with people that are prepared, but most of all, an elderly home that actually takes care of her.
Her mom went the same way, dementia. So probably is genetic.
I am calm now, as it is for the best, I think, but I am beyond broken. I can't understand how something like this can happen so quicky, without a sign, without anything.
That woman raised me, raised everyone, she doesn't deserve this **** to happen to her. It is really not fair.
So, please, If anyone has some input on this, do share.
It really help to talk with people that went through this.
Thank you,
John