Trying to look after mum from a distance. Mum in Hertfordshire on her own and I'm in Cornwall. Mum has yet another urine infection very confused yesterday. Carer is really good she took specimen to drs approx 9.00am why then does it take them five hours to carry out the test and call me? Dr tells me someone should check on mum in the evening so I eventually get hold of brother and sister in law (who live half an hour from mum) they can't go over in fact my brother emails me to say he has phoned mum and she sounded fine to him! Lots of calls to and fro while at work trying to arrange extra care to administer medication. Spoke to day care centre where mum goes twice a week and mum keeps going to reception to say she doesn't want to go there anymore. Should I keep making her go they say she's OK when she's there but she tells me she doesn't like it there? I feel so stressed out I feel I can't cope and my husband whose father died last year who also had Alzheimer's isn't supportive. I manage to hold it together just about at work but I keep catching viruses and feel worn out.