Hi.
My name is Annette, I am a new member and form part of the care for my dad
My dad was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia in 2019. He is a quite, very well educated 83 year old man. I would describe his disposition as warm, accomodating and unassuming.
In the last few months things have deteriorated significantly in various areas......On Sunday I was made aware that dad had been in the local supermarket and was identified by one of the members of staff as the "man who takes things", at the time my mother was with him, some form of confrontation was displayed which resulted in them both being barred from the store. Anxious, I visited the store to establish what had happened and to explain the situation of my dads condition. The manager, thankfully understood and was very good. He told me that this had happened previously and he himself had dealt with it. . He explained dad placing a bottle in his jacket. I think from what was said dad has been asked to hand over the goods and he has been sent on his way.
The end result was I gave my name and contact details and asked if anything further happened that they should contact me.
My thought process is that at the moment my dad decided to do this he knew it was wrong, I understand that he may have forgotten that he had placed the item in his jacket but cannot understand why in that single moment he thought it was ok. My daughter in law suggested that this could be a cry for help,
I just wanted to ask if anyone else has experienced this. I really don't know how to deal with this and have taken advice today.
My name is Annette, I am a new member and form part of the care for my dad
My dad was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia in 2019. He is a quite, very well educated 83 year old man. I would describe his disposition as warm, accomodating and unassuming.
In the last few months things have deteriorated significantly in various areas......On Sunday I was made aware that dad had been in the local supermarket and was identified by one of the members of staff as the "man who takes things", at the time my mother was with him, some form of confrontation was displayed which resulted in them both being barred from the store. Anxious, I visited the store to establish what had happened and to explain the situation of my dads condition. The manager, thankfully understood and was very good. He told me that this had happened previously and he himself had dealt with it. . He explained dad placing a bottle in his jacket. I think from what was said dad has been asked to hand over the goods and he has been sent on his way.
The end result was I gave my name and contact details and asked if anything further happened that they should contact me.
My thought process is that at the moment my dad decided to do this he knew it was wrong, I understand that he may have forgotten that he had placed the item in his jacket but cannot understand why in that single moment he thought it was ok. My daughter in law suggested that this could be a cry for help,
I just wanted to ask if anyone else has experienced this. I really don't know how to deal with this and have taken advice today.