Hi I joined yesterday after having MIL diagnosed on Tuesday and all I read on here scares me for what lies ahead. FIL died last week and hubby and me picking up this situation with her whilst dealing with funeral's and the estate for him. We have managed to get carer's in 3 times a day but she is refusing food from them now. We have been going in every day for five weeks at varying times but now need to sort our lives as we live 10 miles away and have teenage children and full time jobs. Everything apart from existing has been on hold now for five weeks since FIL went to hospital and we started dealing with them both. I struggle emotionally with dealing with MIL as when I first met her she was horrible to me (she was a contributory factor in break up of my BIL's marriage and his last long term relationship before he died 4 years ago). I have put up with her as she is my husband's mother and grandmother of my children and when I had the children she was not as bad to me. Now she is dependent on me for her care as I am self employed one day a week so can take her to appts etc. and my husband is not really a "caring" person especially when it comes to the practical things like washing clothes and changing bedding and being inventive with shopping lists!