are dementia sufferers always, or almost always, nasty rude and aggressive, or am I just un lucky? Ive seen from other threads this does seem to be a trait but I wonder how common it is. Ive already cut my visits to my mother down to weekly and my sons have stopped visiting all together due to her attitude, but I am wondering just how long I can sustain even a weekly visit as I find myself dreading it for the three days before and upset over what has happened the three days after!! I do feel very selfish writing this as I know so many of you care day in and day out and I dont even seem to be able to handle two hours visiting a week...but two hours of almost non stop criticism and abuse punctuated with unfounded allegations and tears over how badly she has been treated is just so draining! After yesterdays visit at lunch tinme I was in tears at work and got NO sleep at all.