1. Margarita

    Margarita Registered User

    Feb 17, 2006
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    #1 Margarita, Jan 9, 2007
    Last edited: Jan 9, 2007
    Well, mum going to respite tomorrow, mum go to daycentre on Wednesday tomorrow, I thought I would tell them tomorrow when they pick her up and she can say hello to them, as she like to tell them herself that she going in to care home for 3 weeks.



    Social worker email me with address of care home and time that they are picking mum by taxi, also says that she told daycentre and care agency. I stupidly tell mum that daycentre worker are not coming around tomorrow morning, now she gone all paranoid on me, saying why is she going to care home, so I told her its because of the move, I told her this all this morning me understanding that of course she forgotten.



    oh no somewhere in her mind, I told her that I have book ticket to go to Gibraltar (as if) we are now having some wired conversation, that is really going no where, because when I say to her do you understand she says she cannot hear me, and she talking to me but really she is talking to herself trying to work it all out, looking at me as I just agree, hopefully to the right thing. But I try to listen, understand its not her fault, nor mine.



    I am trying to keep very grounded into my hear and now. roll on tomorrow and 3 weeks rest for me, well if you can call it a rest moving home, but am not moving till the 22 January so shall hopefully get some me time, but that dame feeling of sadness does pop back in when my mum go quite then pop up again and it all beginnings again the questioning and it feel so hard not to say to mum why are you in so much denial, can you understand its you that's got it all wrong, but I don't as I respect her lack of insight, lucky I can let it all out to you all
     
  2. mel

    mel Registered User

    Apr 30, 2006
    1,656
    Sheffield
    Hi Margarita
    Hope it all goes well for you tomorrow

    Try to get some me time before the move......its a stressful time moving home.....good luck with that too.
    Love Wendy xx
     
  3. Cate

    Cate Registered User

    Jul 2, 2006
    1,370
    Newport, Gwent
    Hi Margarita

    Try not to worry about mum too much, she will be fine, and well looked after.

    You truly deserve to have some time to yourself, and you will be the stronger for it.

    It's a hard job moving house, but at least it will be physical work, giving your mind a rest from the worry about mum.......... and hopefully life will be easier for you once you have settled in your new home.

    Best wishes for tomorrow, and the move on the 22nd.

    Love
    Cate
     
  4. Margarita

    Margarita Registered User

    Feb 17, 2006
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    #4 Margarita, Jan 9, 2007
    Last edited: Jan 9, 2007
    Thanks Mel your think I would be use to all this confusion before after respite with mum, that it has put me of getting respite sooner in the past , and I know how good I feel afterward, but that just me glad I have you all , I’m not complaining am looking forward to it and SW organised it all so soon as I ask her on Monday that I was amazed , it’s a care home in surrey I done a search on it on http://www.csci.org.uk/ which was a peace of mind , as the care home only has 15 people so sound really good .

    PS thanks cate xx Just seen your post when I posted this

    PPS Lol
    really good point there thanks
     
  5. mel

    mel Registered User

    Apr 30, 2006
    1,656
    Sheffield
    Hi Maggie
    We know you're not complaining girl!!
    You worry about respite because you care about your mum:)
    Love Wendy xx
     
  6. dmc

    dmc Registered User

    Mar 13, 2006
    1,157
    hi margarita

    enjoy your respite you deserve it, and i really hope the move goes well for you looks like you'll be getting a new home for your birthday:D

    keep in touch let us know how it all goes
    take care x
     
  7. jan.

    jan. Registered User

    Apr 19, 2006
    405
    Cheshire, UK.
    Hi Margarita,

    Just wanted to wish you "Good Luck" for the big move! Hope you enjoy Weetabix????:D You`ll need all the strength you can muster,;) LOL!

    Enjoy the respite, you deserve it, & it will soon pass with all the work that`s in store for you. Try not to worry, your mum will probably enjoy different company, and we all deserve a break sometimes.

    Thinking of you,
    Jan.:)
     
  8. Lila13

    Lila13 Registered User

    Feb 24, 2006
    1,342
    Hope all goes well with the respite and the move.

    Lila
     
  9. Jann

    Jann Registered User

    May 24, 2006
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    tingewick, bucks.
    Try not to feel sad, Margarita. Deep down inside, your Mum knows you care for her so much.

    Make the most of your respite - even if albeit with the physical side of moving - but it should be exciting for you and you'll be rested and refreshed, ready to look after Mum as well as you do. All my best with move, Jan xx
     
  10. Margarita

    Margarita Registered User

    Feb 17, 2006
    10,824
    london
    All went ok; as I arrived home, I had the most strangest feeling, that I could not put my finger on , it was like I was all alone children grown up and I can do want I want , I have that emotional feeling every time mum go in to respite, like when I was in Gibraltar looking after mum and teenagers where in England different this time because I have my teenagers to go home to , by hay I am going to make the most of it , and what mischief can I get up to in 3 weeks , ok shall tell you am going to go to interview for big brother lol, they may not choice me , but it’s a experience I want to experience , you only live ones , and you never know you may all see me on the next big brother . now what thd change of that with so many people going . Watch this space, its on the 11th, mum would have to go in to respite for 3 mouths lol . I am only going because I know I am not going to get in .
     
  11. dmc

    dmc Registered User

    Mar 13, 2006
    1,157
    you never fail to make me smile BIG BROTHER :D
    i do hope you get in i'd love to see you in it. and you deserve the break and you'd have my vote!!!
    you go girl xxx ;)
     
  12. mel

    mel Registered User

    Apr 30, 2006
    1,656
    Sheffield
    Maggie......that'd be fantastic if you got in.......sure you'd get lots of votes from your TP pals:)
     
  13. Tender Face

    Tender Face Account Closed

    Mar 14, 2006
    5,379
    NW England
    NO! That is NOT the attitude!!!! :) Go, girl.... get into all the mischief you can while you can ...... have the phone lines opened yet? :) (isn't that what they do? Do I need to start dialling now????)

    Love, Karen, x
     
  14. connie

    connie Registered User

    Mar 7, 2004
    9,519
    Frinton-on-Sea
    Margarita.....so pleased for you. It is so, so good that you live within a borough that has made provision for those "with a problem".....SORRY< BUT I STRUGGLE WITH THIS......IT IS NOT AN "ELDERLY & INFIRM" problem, but just a problem

    I hope all goes well with you for "respite".....So, so many areas just DO NOT OFFER THIS ACCOMODIATION TO PEOPLE WHO REALLY NEED THIS.
     
  15. jan.

    jan. Registered User

    Apr 19, 2006
    405
    Cheshire, UK.
    Margarita,

    You do make me smile!!!:D :D :D :D

    You might have a huge shock............chosen for BIG BROTHER!!!!!! :eek:

    You stand as much chance as anyone else!!

    Wow!........what a great platform for promoting awareness for A.D. etc,etc. :)

    The very best of luck for tomorrow? (11th?)

    Jan. X
     
  16. Cate

    Cate Registered User

    Jul 2, 2006
    1,370
    Newport, Gwent
    Hi Maggie

    Way to go girl.............. fantastic............... would love to see you on Big Bro.............you enjoy these few weeks to the full..............keep us posted on what you have been getting up to.

    Love
    Cate xx
     
  17. alex

    alex Registered User

    Apr 10, 2006
    1,665
    Way to go girl..............knock-em dead Maggie............think how proud your family would be!
    Don't go there thinking you won't make it maggie............go in there and tell them your gonna make big brother famous cos your a star!:)

    Best of luck!
    Love Alex x
     
  18. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,896
    Kent
    Oh Margarita, Enjoy your respite, build back your strength and free and easy feeling , good luck for the move and best of all hope you are chosen by Big Brother. They will have found a GEM. You can count on my vote.
    You have 3 weeks. Make the most of them. your mother will be fine and will be back in your new home before you know it. Love Sylvia x
     
  19. Margarita

    Margarita Registered User

    Feb 17, 2006
    10,824
    london
    Could you imagine if I got in all I will be talking about is this problem, educating people like Connie says...
    problem, but just a problem. I tell them all about TP,

    Yes, I should count myself luck that in my area they are so on the ball live within a borough that has made provision, only realizing that since I joined TP

    Karen No you don’t ring them anymore at big brother , just text them and they tell you the date time they are in your area to do the interviews in London they doing them at 1 western gateway Royal Victoria Dock London E16 , we are leavening early around 6am . not to far away from me , just click lol 11 Feb is a Sunday mum will be home, that ok am thinking , as my daughter are always in Saturday night so they can keep an eye on her

    I stayed at a friends last night stayed all the night , as usually he brings me home for around 1pm when I can find someone to sit with mum his very understanding and knows I don’t want live together under one roof relationship , it was wired not worrying about getting home early, I know I maybe should not be saying about that part of my life’s and it was my choice and still is to care for my mother at home , but I did not realizes back then how much of my life I was giving up ,as time went on I did feel resentment, but time dose give you time to sort thinks out emotional in your mind and I found what I was looking for a balance that I am enjoying , mind you it does get unbalance sometime lol and lock up for a while in Big brother sounds good to me , lets see what happens yes your have to all vote to keep me in ( if I get in ) Thanks for your support , that I may get in :)
     
  20. Skye

    Skye Registered User

    Aug 29, 2006
    17,000
    SW Scotland
    Hi Margarita

    Hope you're enjoying your respite. Don't feel guilty, you deserve a break, you couldn't cope with a house move and care for your mum at the same time. And she'll be well looked after.

    Good for you too for applying for Big Brother, hope you get in. That would be an experience!


    And good for you for having a good friend who understands your commitment to your mum. Why shouldn't you have a relationship? Just don't rule out taking things further in the future. Your daughter will eventually leave home, and your mum may have to go into care. You have to think about your own future. You're such a caring person, but don't be too unselfish!

    Love,
     

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