Hi all. Just went down to collect OH from his first respite stay. Advice from GP and carers is that-as he's settled so well-it now becomes permanent. I've booked another week to give me time to think... When I went to see him-he didn't know who I was and thought I was one of his daughters. That was a shock-although I know that may come and go. Came home feeling shell shocked and not knowing which way to go; then rang his daughter to bring her up to speed. She is not happy-says he's nowhere near as bad as other residents and that he was fine at home ( How she knows that on spending 3 hours in the last year with him I do not know). She may well go down there tomorrow-wants to know if anyone has asked him what he wants.... I just don't know what to do. He gets a lot more input in the home and is settled in...but of course he would rather be home. However, I have looked after him for eight years now-this was my first break-and I'm close to burn out. Feel so guilty about leaving him there anyway and could live without this from her. But a lot of me wants to bring him home.Sorry this is rambling but my brain is swimming!