Hi all.
Just went down to collect OH from his first respite stay. Advice from GP and carers is that-as he's settled so well-it now becomes permanent. I've booked another week to give me time to think...
When I went to see him-he didn't know who I was and thought I was one of his daughters. That was a shock-although I know that may come and go.
Came home feeling shell shocked and not knowing which way to go; then rang his daughter to bring her up to speed. She is not happy-says he's nowhere near as bad as other residents and that he was fine at home ( How she knows that on spending 3 hours in the last year with him I do not know). She may well go down there tomorrow-wants to know if anyone has asked him what he wants....
I just don't know what to do. He gets a lot more input in the home and is settled in...but of course he would rather be home. However, I have looked after him for eight years now-this was my first break-and I'm close to burn out. Feel so guilty about leaving him there anyway and could live without this from her.
But a lot of me wants to bring him home.Sorry this is rambling but my brain is swimming!
Just went down to collect OH from his first respite stay. Advice from GP and carers is that-as he's settled so well-it now becomes permanent. I've booked another week to give me time to think...
When I went to see him-he didn't know who I was and thought I was one of his daughters. That was a shock-although I know that may come and go.
Came home feeling shell shocked and not knowing which way to go; then rang his daughter to bring her up to speed. She is not happy-says he's nowhere near as bad as other residents and that he was fine at home ( How she knows that on spending 3 hours in the last year with him I do not know). She may well go down there tomorrow-wants to know if anyone has asked him what he wants....
I just don't know what to do. He gets a lot more input in the home and is settled in...but of course he would rather be home. However, I have looked after him for eight years now-this was my first break-and I'm close to burn out. Feel so guilty about leaving him there anyway and could live without this from her.
But a lot of me wants to bring him home.Sorry this is rambling but my brain is swimming!