My 83 year old mum cares for my dad and she's really struggling now. We were both on a video call together this morning in tears because we're at such a loss to know what to do next. I'm in the USA and I try to get back as much as possible but it's no longer enough and it's also really hard to arrange anything from where I am. We're thinking of putting dad into respite care for a couple of weeks to give her a rest but I have been told by multiple people that once they go into respite care they get even more confused and will start to forget who you are. Yes, respite care will be so good for mum but will it change dad for the worse?
Mum really doesn't want to put him in a home long-term. They're originally from Cyprus and my husband and I were thinking of moving them both back there. They can get a live in home helper for Euro700 per month. That way dad can stay with mum for a longer time. I'm such an over-thinker and it's driving me up the walls thinking of all the different scenarios. Mum has never been a decision maker and it's all left to me. I want to make the right decision for them but moving country is such a HUGE decision for anyone let alone making it for my parents in their current situation. I don't know if this is the best way to go or if moving dad will make things worse much quicker or if he just won't even realize much difference being in Cyprus. Thoughts??
(I'm sure eventually he'll need to go in a home but at least a home in Cyprus will only cost about Euro1500-2000 per month rather than the £1300 a week we've been quoted in the UK.)
Mum really doesn't want to put him in a home long-term. They're originally from Cyprus and my husband and I were thinking of moving them both back there. They can get a live in home helper for Euro700 per month. That way dad can stay with mum for a longer time. I'm such an over-thinker and it's driving me up the walls thinking of all the different scenarios. Mum has never been a decision maker and it's all left to me. I want to make the right decision for them but moving country is such a HUGE decision for anyone let alone making it for my parents in their current situation. I don't know if this is the best way to go or if moving dad will make things worse much quicker or if he just won't even realize much difference being in Cyprus. Thoughts??
(I'm sure eventually he'll need to go in a home but at least a home in Cyprus will only cost about Euro1500-2000 per month rather than the £1300 a week we've been quoted in the UK.)