Hello everyone, I lost my younger son five and a half years ago. For the first couple of years I found it very hard to keep going but I did. In that time I got re -acquainted with a friend of many years [about thirty] we had always been platonic friends ,
but two and a half years ago it became a relationship.
He had a football injury about fifteen years ago and it caused blindness in one eye and bleeding on the brain. He told me has been diagnosed with dementia /alzheimers .
Being with him has given me great joy, but the dementia seems to be causing him a great deal of distress , now, much more than before.
He has had times where he has backed off from our relationship and said he can't make a commitment, but this week has been awful.
He told me he had seen someone else. It really didn;t make sense so I rang the Alzheimers society and they told me about time shifting, which completely made sense
I told him about it and also suggested he ring them himself. He has mentioned suicide at times, and seems very unhappy at times,, other times very happy !
His moods change a lot. All of this week has been a roller -coaster.
One day he says very upsetting things, the next he apologizes , he doesn;t seem to remember his behaviour. He wrote me a note yesterday saying how sorry he is.
Also he said you hurt the one you love most and he loves me more than anyone in the world. Today he came to see me and said he wants to see other women and be free, and travel ,,,I argued with him , I just felt so hurt, we sort of made up, I do love him , but I'm really struggling and don't know what to do.
but two and a half years ago it became a relationship.
He had a football injury about fifteen years ago and it caused blindness in one eye and bleeding on the brain. He told me has been diagnosed with dementia /alzheimers .
Being with him has given me great joy, but the dementia seems to be causing him a great deal of distress , now, much more than before.
He has had times where he has backed off from our relationship and said he can't make a commitment, but this week has been awful.
He told me he had seen someone else. It really didn;t make sense so I rang the Alzheimers society and they told me about time shifting, which completely made sense
I told him about it and also suggested he ring them himself. He has mentioned suicide at times, and seems very unhappy at times,, other times very happy !
His moods change a lot. All of this week has been a roller -coaster.
One day he says very upsetting things, the next he apologizes , he doesn;t seem to remember his behaviour. He wrote me a note yesterday saying how sorry he is.
Also he said you hurt the one you love most and he loves me more than anyone in the world. Today he came to see me and said he wants to see other women and be free, and travel ,,,I argued with him , I just felt so hurt, we sort of made up, I do love him , but I'm really struggling and don't know what to do.