Please help! Has anyone had a partner with Alzheimer's who had refused to sign the LPA forms?
This is what happened this evening. I had tried to explain the LPA and told my husband that a very kind friend who knows us both well would be acting as Certificate Provider. My son (a lawyer) also came - he will also be an attorney. I went out so my friend could explain the LPA in her role as Certificate Provider. When I came back she said my husband had refused to listen but went off to study the forms himself.
He said all this was a surprise and he didn't need a Power of Attorney. I explained that the Power of Attorney was there in case needed - not to come into force at once - and that he could still make decisions.
He seemed either to have forgotten my explanations or chose to behave as if I hadn't provided any. I did feel sorry for him as it must be terrible to accept your diagnosis. I wonder if he's in denial. I have set up joint bank accounts and pay all our bills and arrange everything for us both (house maintenance, diaries, events, social life etc).
I also felt sorry for our friend (who lives quite far away) who had come to stay the night and my son who came by to sign the forms. I now have a month to get the forms off.
Any advice very gratefully received.
LindyN
This is what happened this evening. I had tried to explain the LPA and told my husband that a very kind friend who knows us both well would be acting as Certificate Provider. My son (a lawyer) also came - he will also be an attorney. I went out so my friend could explain the LPA in her role as Certificate Provider. When I came back she said my husband had refused to listen but went off to study the forms himself.
He said all this was a surprise and he didn't need a Power of Attorney. I explained that the Power of Attorney was there in case needed - not to come into force at once - and that he could still make decisions.
He seemed either to have forgotten my explanations or chose to behave as if I hadn't provided any. I did feel sorry for him as it must be terrible to accept your diagnosis. I wonder if he's in denial. I have set up joint bank accounts and pay all our bills and arrange everything for us both (house maintenance, diaries, events, social life etc).
I also felt sorry for our friend (who lives quite far away) who had come to stay the night and my son who came by to sign the forms. I now have a month to get the forms off.
Any advice very gratefully received.
LindyN