Hi All, posting but unsure why, my mum raised me on her own, super woman really now reached 74 and has for thr past few years been fine apart from the odd age related illness etc. Have been concerned to want to help as she has known eye issues but must confess she kind of has always got on with things, recent two weeks though I have noticed huge red flags that have terrified me (Escalating with inability to recall conversations from minutes before) but has resulted in me dropping everything to try and help and missing work. Biggest problem is that when mum is fine or seems fine to herself she doesnt think there is an issue so no need for a dr visit, when she feels there is something wrong she won't go as she says if she's diagnosed with anything she will decline rapidly but I cant force her to book one, there is only me who is a relative and she has really turned quite nasty with me basically saying that I am the cause of her stress which is causing her issues by keep handling. I have backed off but gone to the dr separately for them to try and get her in. She has called me at least twice daily and I have seen her at least daily as well from basically us meeting up maybe fortnightly/weekly so must confess whilst all of the things I have seen are new to me, I dont know how new they are to her. Specific examples in past week, made optician appt for next day and missed it, made an appointment for the same day yesterday and missed it, forgotten banking arrangements made, has asked me to come over as she is stressed thinking she has taken out loans then gone out/untraceable when I arrived at her home 30 minutes after her call, later she went out again but has no idea where she went to on the bus eventually has returned back and had no recall of speaking with me or what I was there, forgetting her 3 sisters are all diagnosed with dementia and getting angry that they dont contact her and basically accusing me of tricking her to make her feel like she is going mad because I want her house as does my cousin. I suppose my post I to reach out because it feels like such a massive shock so I am worrying that if I cant get her to a dr for them to see what is going on how will we cope and worry that my attempted help is having the opposite effect in that if she is happy enough not knowing or being in denial then my attempts to help have somehow caused this rapid decline. At the same time said from the dr I genuinely have no clue if there is support or anything for her or even me for this pre assessment time because it's hard for me to admit but I do feel like it's such a struggle already. Sorry for the long post, been up for hours and wanted to vent/seek advice x