That's what I did with my mum and hope she knew I was there with her. Take care of yourself.
Karen
Really struggling with visiting
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Karen
It really does wear you down doesn't it. Mom has deteriorated rapidly. Last 6 months at home were horrendous, she would ring me 20 times a day or more, refusing to eat or bathe. She was admitted to hospital in January still mobile, and since then she's just got worse daily. Its horrendous isn't itx
Yes, it is and not knowing how long it will last has such a detrimental effect on our health too. It's like a rollercoaster but it never ends.
Karen
Dad has twice been in hospital for weeks at a time nearly dying but pulled through. I'm wondering if it will be the same this year as the last two years although the Home do seem to be managing his blood sugars better now so hopefully he won't get the awful infections he was getting. He was virtually on antibiotics full-time! Whilst he is more stable with his diabetes, he isn't as happy at this Home and his dementia has worsened due to the operation he had to have last year and the move I had to put him through.
Karen
I am going through the same thing with my mum right now. I am so churned up inside & struggling to cope & we didn’t have that close a relationship but she is still my mum. My mum was still walking with a frame before she got into hospital & was determinedly shuffling around. This will be the 3rd day with the syringe driver. For 3 nights, I have got clothes out ready, just in case I get a phone call in the middle of the night. I’m worn out. I feel guilty for having thoughts about afterwards & then I think what if the drs are wrong xx
Mom and I didn't always get on either but she was still my mom and I loved her, I understand totally how you feel, my situation is so similar, such a rapid deterioration. Mom died at 3.30 this morning, hospital rang at 3.18, I am glad because I know she would not have wanted me staring at her. Can't put into words how I feel xx
I am so sorry to hear your news @Whitey2000
At least she is at peace now.
Look after yourself in all the coming arrangements
((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))
At least she is at peace now.
Look after yourself in all the coming arrangements
((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))
Please accept my condolences @Whitey2000 Let your mother rest in peace.
Allow yourself some time to breathe. You did what you could and I`m believe your mother will have known that.
I wasn`t on best terms with my mother either but I did what I could and she knew it too. On one visit when she was delirious with a temperature and didn`t know where she was, she looked at me and said `You always find me.`
Oh @Whitey2000 i am so sorry to hear this but at least you know your mum’s battle with dementia is now over. She is free & so are you. As you say, we were similar but she is still my mum.
My mum is still on the ward. To be honest, I have found that to be quite stressful a lot of the time. Yesterday especially afternoon where I was pretty irritable!
The poor lady to the left of my mum looks like she has had a stroke & breathes very, very loudly. Whether they had given her something for that I don’t know as she was very quiet yesterday evening. ( she was still alive) Then the lady to the right of my mum is very quiet but when her daughter visits, she literally talks non stop to her & I mean non stop. Between that if my mum is trying her best to talk, I can’t hear her & have to ask her to repeat herself. And she hasn’t got the energy.
Big hugs & love @Whitey2000 i don’t think I will be too far behind you xxx
