Hi Troops ...... me again !
OH has slipped quite quickly in the last few months !!
Sorry but this maybe quite a long post, but could do with some advice on a couple of things...... I am having a really bad day today, My OH has been a bit poorly the last 8 months with a foot ulcer which was infected but not now just unhealed! He has been having a few falls too. He fell again this morning.. not badly and was unhurt but he a big guy and i have no hope of lifting him!! I had to get him to shuffle into a less confined space to enable me to help him to his knees do he could lift himself up using the bed !
Also we have recently had problems with pants !? it appears that although he can still take himself to the loo he seems to be forgetting to wipe his bottom from evidence left behind in his pants (sorry maybe too much info!!) any advice\tips on this would be appreciated.....
To be honest all this just proves how useless i am going to be with all this and feel so very inadequate, i cant do this much more, i feel so alone and he is in complete denial that there is anything wrong with him. I am seriously considering calling SS and asking them to put in respite care for a while. He is 70 this year and i am just 51
but feel like my life is over ! We dont go out much only to shop and the odd social event but he wants to come home as soon as we get anywhere so whats the point??...... i feel like i am in prison !!
To top it all we were suppose to be going on holiday at the end of August with friends but due to his health he wont be able to go so that means neither will I !!
I cannot tell you all how thoroughly ****ed off i am right now with him/me/this poxy illness!!
I really do not know what to do!!!
Tx
OH has slipped quite quickly in the last few months !!
Sorry but this maybe quite a long post, but could do with some advice on a couple of things...... I am having a really bad day today, My OH has been a bit poorly the last 8 months with a foot ulcer which was infected but not now just unhealed! He has been having a few falls too. He fell again this morning.. not badly and was unhurt but he a big guy and i have no hope of lifting him!! I had to get him to shuffle into a less confined space to enable me to help him to his knees do he could lift himself up using the bed !
Also we have recently had problems with pants !? it appears that although he can still take himself to the loo he seems to be forgetting to wipe his bottom from evidence left behind in his pants (sorry maybe too much info!!) any advice\tips on this would be appreciated.....
To be honest all this just proves how useless i am going to be with all this and feel so very inadequate, i cant do this much more, i feel so alone and he is in complete denial that there is anything wrong with him. I am seriously considering calling SS and asking them to put in respite care for a while. He is 70 this year and i am just 51
but feel like my life is over ! We dont go out much only to shop and the odd social event but he wants to come home as soon as we get anywhere so whats the point??...... i feel like i am in prison !!
To top it all we were suppose to be going on holiday at the end of August with friends but due to his health he wont be able to go so that means neither will I !!
I cannot tell you all how thoroughly ****ed off i am right now with him/me/this poxy illness!!
I really do not know what to do!!!
Tx
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