Hi everyone
This is the first time I have posted. My step-dad has had a very difficult 6 months. He has a number of physical problems and in the last 6 months started to display mental problems too. This started with paranoid delusions back in March this year with accusations against my mum of having affairs, spending and stealing money, poisoning him and strangers coming in the house and breaking his things. It was happening a couple of times a month to start with. We got MH team and GP involved and he had a brain scan which showed some damage. A psychiatrist assessed him and confirmed damage and problems with cognitive function.
Over the next two months the occasions of delusions increased to almost once every couple of days along with changes in behaviour and personality - stubbornness, very disturbed sleep, forgetfulness. He and my mum have been visited by a CPN on a fortnightly basis. He has also been into respite care for a week. He is already urinary incontinent due to his physical illness but during this time he has also been getting a lot of diarrhoea. Colonoscopies and abdominal scans have found no particular issues and I wonder if it is related to his brain?
By the end of July he was a lot worse and my step-dad saw a Neurologist who diagnosed Lewy Bodies Dementia and gave him some patches of Rivastigmine. In the last few weeks he has deteriorated significantly again. He is now virtually constantly in a state of confusion with constant delusions and/or not really making a lot of sense. His sleep patterns are very disturbed at night while he falls asleep at the drop of a hat in the day, which I understand is common for Lewy Bodies. He has also started with some tremors and spasms similar to Parkinson's as is typical for Lewy bodies.
My mum is really struggling to look after him and cope along with his physical disabilities and she is registered disabled herself with chronic arthritis. Both of them are only in their 60s and currently get half an hour of social care each morning to help get my stepdad out of the bath and dressed.
I know it's hard to predict the prognosis and future but this all seems to have happened so quickly. I am going to get his social worker to call a multi-disciplinary team meeting about his care. My main question is how bad does he need to be before we start talking about him going into a care home? On the one hand my mum can't go on much longer but on the other she's just not ready mentally for him to go into care. I'm also not sure how high the bar is set for eligibility for this from social services?
I'd appreciate anyone's thoughts and advice and general support. It's been a nightmare so far and I know there's a lot more to come!
Sorry for rambling on!
Jo
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This is the first time I have posted. My step-dad has had a very difficult 6 months. He has a number of physical problems and in the last 6 months started to display mental problems too. This started with paranoid delusions back in March this year with accusations against my mum of having affairs, spending and stealing money, poisoning him and strangers coming in the house and breaking his things. It was happening a couple of times a month to start with. We got MH team and GP involved and he had a brain scan which showed some damage. A psychiatrist assessed him and confirmed damage and problems with cognitive function.
Over the next two months the occasions of delusions increased to almost once every couple of days along with changes in behaviour and personality - stubbornness, very disturbed sleep, forgetfulness. He and my mum have been visited by a CPN on a fortnightly basis. He has also been into respite care for a week. He is already urinary incontinent due to his physical illness but during this time he has also been getting a lot of diarrhoea. Colonoscopies and abdominal scans have found no particular issues and I wonder if it is related to his brain?
By the end of July he was a lot worse and my step-dad saw a Neurologist who diagnosed Lewy Bodies Dementia and gave him some patches of Rivastigmine. In the last few weeks he has deteriorated significantly again. He is now virtually constantly in a state of confusion with constant delusions and/or not really making a lot of sense. His sleep patterns are very disturbed at night while he falls asleep at the drop of a hat in the day, which I understand is common for Lewy Bodies. He has also started with some tremors and spasms similar to Parkinson's as is typical for Lewy bodies.
My mum is really struggling to look after him and cope along with his physical disabilities and she is registered disabled herself with chronic arthritis. Both of them are only in their 60s and currently get half an hour of social care each morning to help get my stepdad out of the bath and dressed.
I know it's hard to predict the prognosis and future but this all seems to have happened so quickly. I am going to get his social worker to call a multi-disciplinary team meeting about his care. My main question is how bad does he need to be before we start talking about him going into a care home? On the one hand my mum can't go on much longer but on the other she's just not ready mentally for him to go into care. I'm also not sure how high the bar is set for eligibility for this from social services?
I'd appreciate anyone's thoughts and advice and general support. It's been a nightmare so far and I know there's a lot more to come!
Sorry for rambling on!
Jo
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