Hi Everyone.
I've posted on here a few times regarding my mum's very advanced dementia, which has resulted in her eating very little. I'm struggling with the ethics of the care home winding prescribed Oral Nutritional Supplements into mum, when it seems to me that her body is wanting to close down.
Mum is in such a pitiful state, being distressed for most of her waking hours. She has no sense of time, place, self and no longer recognises me. Behaviour logs show that she spends most of the day shrieking and crying. She's resistive to personal care due to fear. She has been bed bound for 2 years - she has not left her bed or her room for all of that time because she becomes combative when hoisted. Consequently, she is socially isolated. She has disturbing hallucinations. She has contractures. Pain relief doesn't seem to help with the distress. The quality of her life is less than zero.
Mum would never acknowledge that she had dementia, and so she would never express her wishes. There is no living will in place. I have LPOA for Health & Welfare. I have questioned the ethics of administering mum with ONS with the care home manager, but the stock reply is that mum is not EOL yet and that ONS are necessary to prevent malnutrition. Surely, if someone at mum's stage of dementia (she's had it for 18 years) is declining food, we should not be prolonging the natural process of dying by giving them ONS? The longer mum lives, the longer she will suffer, which is surely not in her best interests.
I had a very similar situation with my dad, last year when he was admitted to hospital. Following a conversation with the Consultant, it was agreed that it was in dad's best interests to allow him to slip away, with the support of anticipatory drugs. Prior to that, we had the same scenario and outcome in hospital with my MIL. Care homes seem to have a different approach with this issue, it seems.
I do not condone, nor am I suggesting, that food and drink is withheld. That is unethical, despicable and probably a criminal offence.
It is difficult to find any information on this subject - most of it relates to tube feeding.
My next step is to speak with mum's GP. I'd be grateful if anyone has any experience they'd be willing to share regarding this issue, or if anyone can offer me any thoughts or suggestions. Thank you.
I've posted on here a few times regarding my mum's very advanced dementia, which has resulted in her eating very little. I'm struggling with the ethics of the care home winding prescribed Oral Nutritional Supplements into mum, when it seems to me that her body is wanting to close down.
Mum is in such a pitiful state, being distressed for most of her waking hours. She has no sense of time, place, self and no longer recognises me. Behaviour logs show that she spends most of the day shrieking and crying. She's resistive to personal care due to fear. She has been bed bound for 2 years - she has not left her bed or her room for all of that time because she becomes combative when hoisted. Consequently, she is socially isolated. She has disturbing hallucinations. She has contractures. Pain relief doesn't seem to help with the distress. The quality of her life is less than zero.
Mum would never acknowledge that she had dementia, and so she would never express her wishes. There is no living will in place. I have LPOA for Health & Welfare. I have questioned the ethics of administering mum with ONS with the care home manager, but the stock reply is that mum is not EOL yet and that ONS are necessary to prevent malnutrition. Surely, if someone at mum's stage of dementia (she's had it for 18 years) is declining food, we should not be prolonging the natural process of dying by giving them ONS? The longer mum lives, the longer she will suffer, which is surely not in her best interests.
I had a very similar situation with my dad, last year when he was admitted to hospital. Following a conversation with the Consultant, it was agreed that it was in dad's best interests to allow him to slip away, with the support of anticipatory drugs. Prior to that, we had the same scenario and outcome in hospital with my MIL. Care homes seem to have a different approach with this issue, it seems.
I do not condone, nor am I suggesting, that food and drink is withheld. That is unethical, despicable and probably a criminal offence.
It is difficult to find any information on this subject - most of it relates to tube feeding.
My next step is to speak with mum's GP. I'd be grateful if anyone has any experience they'd be willing to share regarding this issue, or if anyone can offer me any thoughts or suggestions. Thank you.