I'm very new to forum's, so I'd welcome some help, advice and support regarding:- I was granted LPA's in all aspects of my Mum's care & support nearly 4 years ago.(Mum's choice).She is quite settled in her own home and continues to thrive despite the continuing deterioration in her Vascular Dementia. In the last 18months, Mum's Dementia has meant that she no longer copes with more than a few visitors (mainly family)visiting her at any time, or in any large social events. Celebrating Christmas Festivities was spread over a number of weeks for Mum to gain the maximum enjoyment. Last year I became very aware, that following visits from older sibling family members, Mum became quite agitated, distressed and financially vulnerable. After seeking various professional's advice, I had cctv installed and was advised, that in view of Mum's deteriorating condition, that planned visits would be more appropriate, creating a relaxed and enjoyable visit/s. I wrote to the older sibling family members explaining the situation and requesting they ring me to arrange a suitable time for visits, especially as these days, Mum attends quite a few clinic/medical appointments. I received back a number of letters. A female older family sibling member principally wrote about her thoughts and feelings, not identifying with Mum's needs. I counter responded by reiterating the need to prioritise Mum's health and wellbeing. Her visits are approximately every 4-6 weeks, occasionally in the company of her husband, (who then endeavours to carry out non qualified medical dementia tests). Visits are made without contact to myself and at times when the care package team are attending @ meal times (which causes problems as Mum will not eat in front of visitors) The older male family sibling member has chosen not to visit at all, indicating in greeting cards, not only to Mum* that initially "others" would not allow their visits, meaning myself. *Extended family members are not only puzzled by these comments, but offended, as they truly appreciate every bit of Care and support Mum receives. A 2014 Xmas greeting card actually states my name as the reason for the older male sibling family members not visiting Mum! At the moment I've left matters in abeyance. I'd welcome some feedback, as getting the message across to these family members is of upmost importance to Mum's health & well being, as well trying to avoid any potential legal costs!