hi
@Bettusboo
you really need to talk with the OPG
contact details at the bottom of this linked page
Office of the Public Guardian (OPG) helps people in England and Wales to stay in control of decisions about their health and finance and make important decisions for others who cannot decide for themselves. OPG is an executive agency, sponsored by the Ministry of Justice .
www.gov.uk
sadly, many carers who give up work find themselves financially affected (I lived off my savings and carer's allowance)
maybe it's time to re-consider how much you are doing and giving up as you are entitled to a full life of your own, and your own family need you ... I wonder whether your father of old would want you putting his wants before your own life and those of your family (and what you would say to your children, were they in the future to face your situation)