Hi,
My mother (87) has vascular dementia after a stroke 7 years ago and, since we lost our Dad three years ago, me and my brother are caring for Mum at home, my brother has moved in and one or other of us is there all the time.
We have been coping reasonably well and mums dementia has been fairly stable until she was admitted to hospital about 3 weeks ago with a chest infection, she was in for about a week which as terrible as she didn't know where she was or what was happening. Before this she was pretty good mobility wise and also generally fairly well all round but since she has come home there has been a sudden decline.
She is now struggling with mobility and is constantly complaining about pain in her back, tummy, arm, etc, we have had the doctor out a couple of times in the last week and have been told that its probably just a bad back and that we need to keep an eye on bowel movements to ensure the pain killers she is on (codeine) aren't causing tummy pain / constipation, which we are doing our best to stay on top of, but she is crying out in pain sometimes in the mornings and also constantly complaining about pain throughout the day but when we ask where it hurts or how it feels she struggles to explain / communicate it very well.
She will also, every now and then, get up and move about (with her frame!) without the usual wincing and groaning and seems to be in no / very little pain!
I am struggling to understand this and whilst I don't want to seem uncaring I am beginning to wonder if it is partly imagined, is this a "thing" with the condition or should we always assume that the cries / groans are completely real??
Any help / advice / experience of this would be great!!!
My mother (87) has vascular dementia after a stroke 7 years ago and, since we lost our Dad three years ago, me and my brother are caring for Mum at home, my brother has moved in and one or other of us is there all the time.
We have been coping reasonably well and mums dementia has been fairly stable until she was admitted to hospital about 3 weeks ago with a chest infection, she was in for about a week which as terrible as she didn't know where she was or what was happening. Before this she was pretty good mobility wise and also generally fairly well all round but since she has come home there has been a sudden decline.
She is now struggling with mobility and is constantly complaining about pain in her back, tummy, arm, etc, we have had the doctor out a couple of times in the last week and have been told that its probably just a bad back and that we need to keep an eye on bowel movements to ensure the pain killers she is on (codeine) aren't causing tummy pain / constipation, which we are doing our best to stay on top of, but she is crying out in pain sometimes in the mornings and also constantly complaining about pain throughout the day but when we ask where it hurts or how it feels she struggles to explain / communicate it very well.
She will also, every now and then, get up and move about (with her frame!) without the usual wincing and groaning and seems to be in no / very little pain!
I am struggling to understand this and whilst I don't want to seem uncaring I am beginning to wonder if it is partly imagined, is this a "thing" with the condition or should we always assume that the cries / groans are completely real??
Any help / advice / experience of this would be great!!!