One day at a time

[Murray Evans]

Hi, my partner has now been diagnosed with alzheimers following a change in his cognitive function. Previously diagnosed with depressive cognitive deficit. Just had another angry episode from him refusing to believe I'd fed the dogs, he's now gone to bed refusing to take his medication. I cope by taking one day at a time as tomorrow he will have forgotten this tantrum.

 

[Grannie G]

Welcome @Murray Evans

Well done for recognising one day at a time is the way to go.

Are you finding evenings are the worst when your husband is tired and more confused?

 

[Chizz]

Hi @Murray Evans
You said " I cope by taking one day at a time as tomorrow he will have forgotten this tantrum."

It's the only way. Tomorrow is another day, and it's already on its way.

 

[Murray Evans]

Welcome @Murray Evans

Well done for recognising one day at a time is the way to go.

Are you finding evenings are the worst when your husband is tired and more confused?

Not really, he can be like this anytime. He tends to forget why he's angry/upset but still feels the emotion. He's even asked me why he's upset which is strange when I reply he's upset with me. Tomorrow it'll be back to normal until something else causes concern.

 

[SeaSwallow]

Hello @Murray Evans Your partner’s ’tantrum’ could be caused by anxiety. It might be useful to discuss this issue with their GP to see if some medication might help.

 

[Murray Evans]

Thanks, things have improved with a combination of antidepressants from the GP and mental health services, there are still a few triggers though that provoke these episodes.

 

[SMVsupport]

Not really, he can be like this anytime. He tends to forget why he's angry/upset but still feels the emotion. He's even asked me why he's upset which is strange when I reply he's upset with me. Tomorrow it'll be back to normal until something else causes concern.

This is happening with my mum, I understand the fear she has due to her lack of understanding but it’s very difficult on the family member facing this, which is normally me.