Hello all just a thought especially to those members who have Husband/ Wife/or partmer in ful time residential care.
I have thought long and hard about this and if I were to be asked what would have a comforting and calming effect for my husband when he is most distressed would be for me to lay down next to him and hold him close.. After years of being together the seperation when they have to go into care is stressful for both carer and patient I know that my head nestles on my husbands shoulder perfectly because years of practice and instinct means he extends his arm at just the right arc to cradle my head, similarly when we lay side by side our bodies intertwine and form our own comforting shape. I am not suggesting that all rooms have double beds nor that we need to be undressed but space to lay together would be nice!! what do other members think
I have thought long and hard about this and if I were to be asked what would have a comforting and calming effect for my husband when he is most distressed would be for me to lay down next to him and hold him close.. After years of being together the seperation when they have to go into care is stressful for both carer and patient I know that my head nestles on my husbands shoulder perfectly because years of practice and instinct means he extends his arm at just the right arc to cradle my head, similarly when we lay side by side our bodies intertwine and form our own comforting shape. I am not suggesting that all rooms have double beds nor that we need to be undressed but space to lay together would be nice!! what do other members think