Hello all, my first post as a relative of a vascular dementia sufferer. We have just moved her from a nursing home with no mental stimulation to another local one which suits her needs better. Our council have agreed to fund it as her spouse lives in their house and her savings are low now. However the new manager rang us the day before admission asking for a top up to full private rate but told us not to tell council or they will withdraw funding. Council now demanding to know if we are paying a top up . We took legal advice and were told to get home to get top up via council and we then pay council extra rate but we are afraid of losing her place. She is not settled and agitated so we don't want to give home any excuse to not take her permanently! She cannot live at home as spouse also affected to a lesser degree and she was not happy in herself there either. Does anyone else have similar experience of top up demands please?