I feel like screaming "this is way too difficult" and you are so right, unless you are living this life "no one knows ".
Each day is fraught with some emotional challenge and it's exhausting. On the outside my OH looks well (although look more closely and there is a distracted/vacant look), on the inside however is someone:
- who has no idea of day/time,
-doesn't eat unless prompted,
-cannot prepare food or drink (apart an occasional cup of tea),
-confuses me with another woman of the same name who lives in our house,
- needs constant reassurance that I love him, and sex as a means of showing this
- needs to be right next to me stroking me all the time (this drives me insane),
- needs to be occupied constantly,
- moves things around the house (and when I mistakenly say out load "where is ....", we have the full denial - it's not my fault response). Of course it's not dear ?
- needs help to go to the toilet,
- hardly ever wants to do anything I suggest
- tells me daily, "let's be nice to each other today"
.....oh I must stop here as the list is endless.
We do get some help - for two hours, three times of the week. Like others we are not yet at respite stage, but really, how long before I actually go insane.
Love to you all in this same situation.
Note to self, don't have a glass of wine in the evening otherwise you'll be up again at stupid o'clock ?
I feel like screaming "this is way too difficult" and you are so right, unless you are living this life "no one knows ".
Each day is fraught with some emotional challenge and it's exhausting. On the outside my OH looks well (although look more closely and there is a distracted/vacant look), on the inside however is someone:
- who has no idea of day/time,
-doesn't eat unless prompted,
-cannot prepare food or drink (apart an occasional cup of tea),
-confuses me with another woman of the same name who lives in our house,
- needs constant reassurance that I love him, and sex as a means of showing this
- needs to be right next to me stroking me all the time (this drives me insane),
- needs to be occupied constantly,
- moves things around the house (and when I mistakenly say out load "where is ....", we have the full denial - it's not my fault response). Of course it's not dear ?
- needs help to go to the toilet,
- hardly ever wants to do anything I suggest
- tells me daily, "let's be nice to each other today"
.....oh I must stop here as the list is endless.
We do get some help - for two hours, three times of the week. Like others we are not yet at respite stage, but really, how long before I actually go insane.
Love to you all in this same situation.
Note to self, don't have a glass of wine in the evening otherwise you'll be up again at stupid o'clock ?
mine can’t walk so I do have some control. It’s the hopelessness and not being able to help the situation which tears me to shreds. I sometimes think it’s all my fault, which it’s ridiculous I know, but I can’t help and if I was in that situation I know I would want to die. But I’m sure my OH doesn’t - he just wants it fixed. But there are no fixes for this disease. The fact that his symptoms aren’t the same as for others makes it worse as I often think - what if it’s all a mistake and he doesn’t have LBD after all. I’m rambling. But carer due soon and I will be off to work.