hey, been reading this forum for a few weeks and its brilliant how supportive people are. my grandad is in care with dementia but is fairly settled. i moved in with my gran whilst back from uni to help her a bit, as she wasn't coming to terms with his illness very well. 2 weeks later she is diagnosed herself and the acceleration has been rapid. on a Monday she was wanting to see my new website for my new business, on the Friday she phoned the police (although phoned 111 instead) saying i had punched her, grabbed her, thrown her in a chair, tossed her to the floor, poked her in the chest, i could go on. she has become very aggressive towards people, confused, angry, eccentric. She was taken into hospital for the night, examined and released on her own in a taxi at 1:30am. She's been put on anti-psychotics by her mental health doctor, which aren't doing any good, shes refusing to go see my grandad who is half a mile down the road because "the carers make up nasty stories about us". I've had specsavers phone me saying she isn't fit to be in their shop alone, a neighbour complain that she was out in the street waving a dish towel around, the bank have stopped letting her withdraw money because of her confusion, the girls at my grandads nursing home have even become annoyed with her behaviour, such as swearing at them for something simple like not putting a towel in my grandads room. her mental health doctor as pleasant and knowledgeable as he is doesn't seem to be taking this seriously. this morning she threw a dish towel and plate at me because there was water round the sink from filling the kettle up. its highly frustrating that her behaviour warrants care, yet because she dresses herself, washes, cleans, cooks, tidies the house (50 times a day) shes classed as capable of looking after herself. we're stuck in that no mans land between her being ok to manage at home and not being advanced enough for someone to take it seriously enough. her doctor has said if i move out that something will be done because she can't cope on her own due to wandering around in the night, but if i leave i feel like i'm condemning her. any help appreciated!!