Hi - my first post!
I have a 91 yo father with Alzheimer's which is of course tough but what I find hard to deal with is his total lack of memory. He doesn't remember anything much and has no long term memory either, this makes it very difficult when I visit him. I have recently made the decision to find permanent residential care for him (he has been in the CH since last Thurs) as my 90 yo mother just couldn't cope with him at home even with the assistance of carers.
Just wondering if the long term memory loss is something that anyone else has come across and if they'd found any things that worked for them. When I visit Dad everyday in the CH all I spend my time with him doing is explaining why he is where he is and that this is where he lives now. As I don't have anything else to talk to him about as he doesn't remember any events (or recognise anyone - including himself - in photos) this constant pleading to leave is nigh on impossible to deflect. I assume that as he recognises me (but not my name) he associates me with his old home but as all he did there was watch the TV I feel that there is so much more for him in the CH. Dad's speech is much affected too by his Alzheimer's so gets frustrated alot as he can't say what he wants to - I so feel for him and want to make his life as calm and stress free as possible.
Any advice would be much appreciated.
I have a 91 yo father with Alzheimer's which is of course tough but what I find hard to deal with is his total lack of memory. He doesn't remember anything much and has no long term memory either, this makes it very difficult when I visit him. I have recently made the decision to find permanent residential care for him (he has been in the CH since last Thurs) as my 90 yo mother just couldn't cope with him at home even with the assistance of carers.
Just wondering if the long term memory loss is something that anyone else has come across and if they'd found any things that worked for them. When I visit Dad everyday in the CH all I spend my time with him doing is explaining why he is where he is and that this is where he lives now. As I don't have anything else to talk to him about as he doesn't remember any events (or recognise anyone - including himself - in photos) this constant pleading to leave is nigh on impossible to deflect. I assume that as he recognises me (but not my name) he associates me with his old home but as all he did there was watch the TV I feel that there is so much more for him in the CH. Dad's speech is much affected too by his Alzheimer's so gets frustrated alot as he can't say what he wants to - I so feel for him and want to make his life as calm and stress free as possible.
Any advice would be much appreciated.