I am sorry for your loss, but you did all you could for your mum. My husband died in December 2021, I could not face another funeral at the crematorium, as my daughter died in December 2017 and I am still awaiting an inquest into her death. I still have flashbacks of seeing her coffin and the thought of another service is painful. I had a cremation only for my husband and plan to have a meal out with all his grandaughters to celebrate his life, and raise a glass in his memory. at a later date. My husband left his affairs in a state and I have to pay for probate and change of name at the land registry which is going to cost a few thousand, so the money from his life policy will have to be spent on this as without his income things will be tight. We were married for 50 years and I loved him dearly. I am assured the cremation only was carried out with dignity, they played his favorite song, also a tree is being planted in his memory. On the day f the cremation myself and his grandaughters lit a candle in his memory. It is your choice what type of funeral you have. Your mum knows she was loved and that is all that matters. How we treat people when they are alive is all that matters. One of my friends tutted at my choice but franly it has nothing to do with her.