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Newbie here with early onset Alzheimer's Disease

Daryl2510

Registered User
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I lost my sister last week, sadly... it was sudden and unexpected and her death has come as quite a shock.

Today, I have received a text and email from my GP and hospital asking me for my own health and safety, and to save burden to an already crippled NHS system, so self-isolate for 12 weeks, in order that I may not catch this virus that is causing untold misery to people all around the world.

A few days ago, we received news that my mum's dementia is worsening and is causing certain organs in her body to fail - the doctors have said that she has probably got less than a month to survive - her carehome is in lockdown, so I can't visit her and now I've been advised that I cannot leave my home anyway for at least another 3 months.

Because of all this, I will probably miss my sister's funeral, I won't be able to be there when my own mother dies and more than likely will have to miss her funeral as well...

I'm saying all this not for sympathy...

I just want people to try and be kind to each other - life is precious, and so are the people that live them... show each other respect, not only here, but in real life too.

Peace and love,


Daryl x
 

Shedrech

Volunteer Moderator
Dec 15, 2012
8,794
Yorkshire
oh @Daryl2510 such sad news
your family really are having a hard time

might you talk with the manager of your mum's home and see what might be done about compassionate visits

thank you for thinking of others at such a time ... my heart goes out to you
 

canary

Registered User
Feb 25, 2014
11,656
South coast
Im so sorry (((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))

I think a lot of care homes who are in lockdown are making exceptions for End of Life. It might be worthwhile finding out if your mums care home will do this.
 

Daryl2510

Registered User
My sister's funeral...

I buried my sister on Wednesday - it was a very surreal funeral - beautiful (with the weather and service), sad and funny all rolled into one. I actually felt like a character playing a part in an episode of the Twilight Zone!

Because of the government restrictions on congregations, the funeral was limited to immediate family members only and it could only be a graveside service, as all churches have been closed. But this added to the beauty of her funeral, because it was a gloriously sunny and warm day, the birds were singing in the cemetery and the limited number of family members there, made it very touching and moving.

I made sure that my Mam had a wreath for her daughter too, so as it could include her on the day, even though she is in lockdown in her carehome and totally unaware that her beloved daughter has even died... I think that is a blessing in disguise as she would have been devastatingly heartbroken had she been in full capacity to understand. My wreath from myself and my siblings was a pillow done with blue flowers and Sister overlayed on it - she loved blue.

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