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Need advice please

Discussion in 'Memory concerns and seeking a diagnosis' started by tbsmum, Jan 7, 2018.

  1. DeMartin

    DeMartin Registered User

    Jul 4, 2017
    264
    Kent
    At a push, rich tea with a filling of peanut butter, meal replacement bars, breakfast bars, could be “fancy biscuits “
     
  2. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    4,908
    South coast
    Is it possible that he is eating outside the home - at a cafe or similar?
     
  3. Mudgee Joy

    Mudgee Joy Registered User

    Dec 26, 2017
    74
    Well if he is remembering next weeks appointment - he just may be ok - is there no temptation in food ??my husband can‘t resist ice cream
     
  4. tbsmum

    tbsmum New member

    Jan 7, 2018
    8
    He just doesn't seem interested in food at all - since diner was a no-no I've tried at lunchtimes saying things like, 'I'm having a ham sandwich, do you want one' - but he just replies that I'm forgetting that he doesn't want to eat. He never goes out so can't be getting anything outside.
     
  5. Mudgee Joy

    Mudgee Joy Registered User

    Dec 26, 2017
    74
    Maybe you could say - if you get a good result from the doctors I’m hoping you’ll get your appetite back !! He sounds like he can rationalise - so maybe it just temporary! All the best x
     
  6. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    4,908
    South coast
    It might be just an illusion - he sounds like he has a lot of frontal lobe problems and this can cause problems with behaviour and reasoning before other typical dementia symptoms like memory loss start.
     
  7. tbsmum

    tbsmum New member

    Jan 7, 2018
    8
    Well he totally surprised me on Saturday evening. I told him that it was mince and tatties for dinner and was he going to stop messing about and have some - and he said yes, but not too much. He reckoned that he'd lost the 6lbs that he wanted to lose and could start eating again. No mention of "I'll never eat another meal again before I die" etc.. I really can't decide if he's forgotten that, remembers but is just trying to save face, or is playing silly beggars for reasons known only to himself.

    He went for his copd checkup today and was all smiles and charming - we'll see what tomorrow brings when he goes to see the doctor.
     
  8. Mudgee Joy

    Mudgee Joy Registered User

    Dec 26, 2017
    74
    Glad you are getting some mental respite from the hunger !!
    It really is amazing how different days can be !! I was away today but my carer said my husband was very good today !!
     
  9. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    4,908
    South coast
    Im glad he has started eating again
    I find that my OH has obsessions that last 2 or 3 weeks and then they are over with and its on to the next thing......
    I also find that his memories change, but he is convinced that he always thought that. Any attempt on my part to say "but you said ......" is seen as me trying to coerce him and tell him what to think.
     
  10. tbsmum

    tbsmum New member

    Jan 7, 2018
    8
    The visit to the doctor went well thankfully. He'd obviously taken note of the letter I handed in and got straight to the point. He said the last blood test results (which were probably months ago) were really good and now that we knew he was fine physically it made sense to complete the MOT by checking him out mentally. An appointment is being made at the Old Age Psychiatry Dept of our local hospital and I'm relieved that it all went smoothly.
     
  11. LadyA

    LadyA Volunteer Host

    Oct 19, 2009
    12,279
    Ireland
    Sounds good @tbsmum . Hope that appointment will go equally well.
     
  12. jeff@verynice

    jeff@verynice New member

    Jan 16, 2018
    2
    I'm so sorry to hear you are having these sorts of problems with your husband. I am concern with your Doctor i would ask for another Doctor because that is no help at all.They should of been more supported to you.
     
  13. tbsmum

    tbsmum New member

    Jan 7, 2018
    8
    Sorry Jeff - I obviously didn't explain it well. Last week I saw a useless doctor so I made an appointment for us to see a specific doctor and had written to him explaining the situation and the purpose of our visit today. He handled it brilliantly, I felt that he had taken notice of me, my husband felt that he was making the decisions, and something is being done.
     
  14. Mudgee Joy

    Mudgee Joy Registered User

    Dec 26, 2017
    74
    That all sounds promising now ! All the very best
     

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