The support I have received here is immense. And I will be eternally grateful to everyone who has posted and given me the strength to do what I should have done ages ago.
A weight has been lifted today for me, and I'm actually feeling good for the first time in months!!!!
I now have someone calling me next week from the local Alzheimers in Blackpool for a chat.
And with regard to having some sort of life for myself, not only (as in my previous post) have I arranged to visit a friend tomorrow evening, but another friend next Monday evening, plus I've enrolled on a belly dancing class each Wednesday evening. I will not be out for long, and will have Mum settled before I leave the house. Oh!!! Last but not least, I've received a call today offering me voluntary work and I have an interview next Thursday!!!!
Thanks to everyone on here, you have made me realise that I don't have to feel guilty for having a life outside these four walls. And a little quality of life for myself is not being selfish.
Mum is still unhappy with me, and doing her very best to make me feel guilty, and in honesty, until today it would have worked. Never again though. I am entitled to a life and am too young to give up on it to keep someone else happy!!! My problem was the guilt, and feeling I was letting her down. But now I know that I should not have to deliver her 'wants' at my own expense, and from today I won't. Not that I will never help her with her wants again, of course I will, but when it fits in with my life from now on. I will always ensure her needs are met though, even if I am unable to do all of that myself. And that is something else that Mum will have to learn to live with.
All I can say tonight, from my heart, is that this site and everyone on it are amazing, people on here are actually life savers!!!!!!
I do hope that one day, I will be in a position to support new members who feel very lost and alone....... confused........ scared....... and in utter despair....
I applaud the love and care that has shone through to me from people I would be proud to call my friends.
THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH.........................