Friday - a day as long as a week
Today was a mammoth day for both Alan and myself. For Alan it meant going to the community centre this morning (which turned out to be a day centre - don't ask
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) and then tonight he was having his first evening at a care home with his Crossroads sitter.
For me I had a 3 hour meeting about my sister's care which was excellent but very intense. I then had to be fully there for Alan when he came back with the sitter. Apparently the sitter took him to Crossroads day centre for 1.5 hrs because that's what she thought I meant. Apparently it is in the same place as the community centre. She then took him off to a very large local deer park and they had a big walk. I thought Alan looked 20 years older when he walked in and he seemed agitated and his eyes were glazed or different. The sitter couldn't see what I could see. I've noticed that not many people see what I see and I wonder why they can't see the big differences in him?
Then the care home manager phoned and she sounded wonderful and invited both Alan and myself to go to see her and the home. We were there within 15 minutes. I have no idea how to tell you just what it was that I heard and saw. Alan became alive and he looked so happy
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We were taken to a quiet room which Alan and the sitter can use whenever I want (they can also use all the facilities including a bath, food, staff if necessary) at no cost whatsoever to anyone because they believe that we have paid taxes and we are entitled to the facilities. It has day centre facilities catering for people with dementia and is a residential care home as well. The manager told me to check with CQC because it is a place of excellence and I could see that it was. All the staff looked happy and they have been there for years. One member of staff lives on my road although we'd never met. I have been told that I can come any time without prior warning. Alan started singing which he hasn't done for a long time and then he sat with us. The manager said that Alan and his sitter could use the facilities whenever I needed and it didn't just have to be in the evening for an hour.
I asked whether we could start tonight and she said yes. I typed up the hours that I would want for next week and took them tonight so whenever I am working Alan will be able to go there. She said I didn't need to use it just when I'm working but whenever I wanted.
I arranged for a taxi to transport Alan and the sitter to the care home and off they went. I was able to work in complete peace and it did make such a difference. After work I still had 3/4 hr to myself before I went to pick them up. When I got there Alan was waiting for me and the sitter said that he was agitated but no more than he was at home. She was capable of seeing the changes in him. I noticed that Alan was no different really to how he would be at home and as we left he was happily saying goodbye to staff. My sister worked in a terrible care home and I spent quite some time volunteering there but this home was something delightfully different.
It has been the most enormous week for us but I think it must have been a million times more stressful for Alan because he has nowhere and no one to share his experiences with.
I never would have thought - absolutely never - that Alan would be experiencing a care home this week
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I feel like I've been swept along a wave that has taken me from A to Z and I am completely shattered.