Sorry be a bother but I'm after advice again. I have a massive hill to climb in persuading my Mum to go with more care coming in for my Dad (both mid 80's) but my Dad needs more than he is getting. My Dad is mid stage I would say. He can chat but it has to be at his level and will often just zone out and starts talking to himself. He is incontinent of urine but still gets the call and takes himself to the loo. He wears pully ups. He wets himself at that point, not sure if he does it inbetween and he is then wet. This is happening more often than not now. He also doesn't manage to wipe his bum clean either so that's evident in the removed pully ups. He can feed himself but has to have the food and drink provided. The house is beginning to smell not too pleasant now as you can imagine. At this moment we have carers visiting 3 times a week. They get him showered and in to clean clothes. I believe this now isn't enough and would like 2 visits daily. My mum is definitely going to resist this but hey ho that's something to work on. A question is on the second visit would a carer use wipes to clean him up? Is this what is normal or any other advice as to what we would need???? Thanks.