hi im a 28 yrs old femalemy dad had a hip operation 7 yrs ago
a week after he came home he suffered a stroke which he spent quite a few months in hospital
we was then told he had alzheimers im not quiet sure what stage he is in now
but he wanders away from home doesnt know where he lives has become very abussive verbally
his mobility isnt good he cant do hardly anything for him self he as no feeling in his left arm
or cant do anything with his arm it has been very frustrating for him has he was such a active man before all of this
he says things which can be hurtful at times but i know this isnt my dad talking
well now it has got to the point last week where he would not take his tablets or eat his tea on time
he would leave it for over a hour he told me mum she doesnt care or do any thing for him
which i know is not my dad talking he slept downstairs on the floor for 4 nights last week
because he couldnt get up and my mum couldnt help him either has she as had a operation on her hand
so i have been helping out which i will any time he is me dad
but he came to a turning point on thursday my mum has been getting depressed with it all
he was on the floor on thursday morning his career was told by the ppl they work for that they wasnt allowed to get him up
and to just leave which then my mum rang social services who my dad is under and basically at first they said
they would have to re acces him in a few wks my mum then got a phone call back
saying they would put my dad in to emergency repite to be able to sort things out with a meeting
i felt awful leaving my dad there for some reason this time seemed different
on the saturday we was told when we rung up to see how my dad was that he was very unsettled and destressed
and been very verbal abbussive they had to call a gp out to give him medication to help settle him
we was told not to ring has they could hear how upsetting it was for us and they would ring us today
well they didnt so my mum rung social services which they have now said they can not give any more care help at home
so they will be putting my dad in to permenant care but we dont know when or where yet
so you can imagine it has torn us apart we still cant go and see my dad yet and they have not said when we will be able
to go i feel like my world has been turned up side down
i feel like ive lied to my dad has we told him it wouldnt be for long now he isnt coming back home at all
i knew this time would come one day but not yet i cant control my tears since thursday
i know i have got to accept my dad isnt coming home and yes i know i can visit him and take him out for days
if i am allowed but its not the same and i feel ive cheated my dad i know in time i will come to accept it
but my concerns are more for my dad what will he think of us as a family for what we have done because in his own way
he will know they is something different in his life will he accept it in time and will he forgive us in his own way
for what has happened i know i havent lost my dad but why does it feel like this and
why do i feel my life is all upside down
a week after he came home he suffered a stroke which he spent quite a few months in hospital
we was then told he had alzheimers im not quiet sure what stage he is in now
but he wanders away from home doesnt know where he lives has become very abussive verbally
his mobility isnt good he cant do hardly anything for him self he as no feeling in his left arm
or cant do anything with his arm it has been very frustrating for him has he was such a active man before all of this
he says things which can be hurtful at times but i know this isnt my dad talking
well now it has got to the point last week where he would not take his tablets or eat his tea on time
he would leave it for over a hour he told me mum she doesnt care or do any thing for him
which i know is not my dad talking he slept downstairs on the floor for 4 nights last week
because he couldnt get up and my mum couldnt help him either has she as had a operation on her hand
so i have been helping out which i will any time he is me dad
but he came to a turning point on thursday my mum has been getting depressed with it all
he was on the floor on thursday morning his career was told by the ppl they work for that they wasnt allowed to get him up
and to just leave which then my mum rang social services who my dad is under and basically at first they said
they would have to re acces him in a few wks my mum then got a phone call back
saying they would put my dad in to emergency repite to be able to sort things out with a meeting
i felt awful leaving my dad there for some reason this time seemed different
on the saturday we was told when we rung up to see how my dad was that he was very unsettled and destressed
and been very verbal abbussive they had to call a gp out to give him medication to help settle him
we was told not to ring has they could hear how upsetting it was for us and they would ring us today
well they didnt so my mum rung social services which they have now said they can not give any more care help at home
so they will be putting my dad in to permenant care but we dont know when or where yet
so you can imagine it has torn us apart we still cant go and see my dad yet and they have not said when we will be able
to go i feel like my world has been turned up side down
i feel like ive lied to my dad has we told him it wouldnt be for long now he isnt coming back home at all
i knew this time would come one day but not yet i cant control my tears since thursday
i know i have got to accept my dad isnt coming home and yes i know i can visit him and take him out for days
if i am allowed but its not the same and i feel ive cheated my dad i know in time i will come to accept it
but my concerns are more for my dad what will he think of us as a family for what we have done because in his own way
he will know they is something different in his life will he accept it in time and will he forgive us in his own way
for what has happened i know i havent lost my dad but why does it feel like this and
why do i feel my life is all upside down