It will be 4 weeks tomorrow that my mother was committed to hospital because of her violence & aggression. During this time frame, my sister flew up from Montreal & we had meetings with the home & hospital, and my husband & I went to Paris for a week (will post something in the tea room one of these days).
When we came back from our holiday, we found that my miother has lost her ability to walk & also feed herself. The multiple changes between nursing home, emergency room, psychiatric special care room (complete with restraints) and finally geriatric mental health unit proved to be too much for my mother & she rapidly lost her walking & feeding abilities.
Then last week I heard from the SW at the hospital that the nursing home might not take my mother back. This entailed me phoning & running to the home to see them etc. I had suspected that the general manager of the home had doubts, because apparently family members of the residents my mother had assaulted were complaining loudly - this, of course, is completely understandable. I went Thursday unannounced for a face-to-face with the director of nursing and the general manager. I do think they were toying with the idea but my main complaint was not that they were considering not taking Mum back, it was that that fact was not made crystal clear to us. I understand some family members raise stinks but I am a very reasonable person and it would be much easier for me to at least be more aware of the lack of interest in taking her back. It would have given me the opportunity to start looking around etc etc etc to make other arrangements.
But they will take her back - now it's just a matter of the bureaucracies sorting it out amongst themselves.
It did take its toll on me so I'm glad I spent 120€ on a top in Paris!!
As for her losing her abilities, she was teetering on the walking part anyways. I think all the brouhaha simply accelerated the process.
Joanne
When we came back from our holiday, we found that my miother has lost her ability to walk & also feed herself. The multiple changes between nursing home, emergency room, psychiatric special care room (complete with restraints) and finally geriatric mental health unit proved to be too much for my mother & she rapidly lost her walking & feeding abilities.
Then last week I heard from the SW at the hospital that the nursing home might not take my mother back. This entailed me phoning & running to the home to see them etc. I had suspected that the general manager of the home had doubts, because apparently family members of the residents my mother had assaulted were complaining loudly - this, of course, is completely understandable. I went Thursday unannounced for a face-to-face with the director of nursing and the general manager. I do think they were toying with the idea but my main complaint was not that they were considering not taking Mum back, it was that that fact was not made crystal clear to us. I understand some family members raise stinks but I am a very reasonable person and it would be much easier for me to at least be more aware of the lack of interest in taking her back. It would have given me the opportunity to start looking around etc etc etc to make other arrangements.
But they will take her back - now it's just a matter of the bureaucracies sorting it out amongst themselves.
It did take its toll on me so I'm glad I spent 120€ on a top in Paris!!
As for her losing her abilities, she was teetering on the walking part anyways. I think all the brouhaha simply accelerated the process.
Joanne