Any advice appreciated....
CPN visited mum this week and we have since spoken at length that biggest concern for mum just now is her sinking into depression (well known for mum even pre-dementia days ).....
Mum's best friend of nearly 40 years (more like sisters) has maybe a matter of weeks to live ...... not so long ago mum was grumbling that said friend didn't visit so often and I explained as best I could that the chemotherapy her friend was having would be making her ill - mum had absolutely no concept of her friend's situation ('But, why isn't she visiting me when I've got all these aches and pains too?'.... )
Suddenly now, mum has absolute awareness of the prognosis .... concerned, weepy etc ..... (understandably) heading towards devastated ......
CPN and I discussed this is a phase of 'damage limitation' (for mum). With the friend's family's 'consent' I am taking mum to visit her friend in hospital tomorrow (friend's daughter said HER mum is only concerned for MINE! and despite all our concerns, we each know how much the other mother thinks of each other) .... on balance the 'gamble' is that it will do them both good to see each other however they each present) .... That's tomorrow kinda planned....
My mum's friend is one of the loveliest people ever walked this earth and did so much - for me- my dad, not to mention mum over the years ... I love her and I'm gutted myself .... but any ideas how to help mum through this and beyond?
To visit or not to visit? To face it or distract?
Sorry to ramble on .... any ideas appreciated....
Love, Karen, x
CPN visited mum this week and we have since spoken at length that biggest concern for mum just now is her sinking into depression (well known for mum even pre-dementia days ).....
Mum's best friend of nearly 40 years (more like sisters) has maybe a matter of weeks to live ...... not so long ago mum was grumbling that said friend didn't visit so often and I explained as best I could that the chemotherapy her friend was having would be making her ill - mum had absolutely no concept of her friend's situation ('But, why isn't she visiting me when I've got all these aches and pains too?'.... )
Suddenly now, mum has absolute awareness of the prognosis .... concerned, weepy etc ..... (understandably) heading towards devastated ......
CPN and I discussed this is a phase of 'damage limitation' (for mum). With the friend's family's 'consent' I am taking mum to visit her friend in hospital tomorrow (friend's daughter said HER mum is only concerned for MINE! and despite all our concerns, we each know how much the other mother thinks of each other) .... on balance the 'gamble' is that it will do them both good to see each other however they each present) .... That's tomorrow kinda planned....
My mum's friend is one of the loveliest people ever walked this earth and did so much - for me- my dad, not to mention mum over the years ... I love her and I'm gutted myself .... but any ideas how to help mum through this and beyond?
To visit or not to visit? To face it or distract?
Sorry to ramble on .... any ideas appreciated....
Love, Karen, x