Hello
I haven't been on the forum for several years but feel I need a rant/let off steam as life feels challenging and scary at the moment....
My mum who is almost 79 has vascular dementia and has been in a lovely care home for the last two years.
Since the beginning of october we have had a huge dip in all her cognative skills..then she was in hospital with a mega chest and urine infection for 9 days which amazingly she recovered from and then went back to the home for what is being classed as end of life care........
She is in bed all the time, has suddenly stopped recognising me and is eating very little. she looks like a skeleton.
I have had a good chat with the GP and she is now not for resuscitation and there are some drugs which the district nurse can give if she becomes agitated. At the moment she is very comfy..she hears things when you come in the room but there is very little speech and she just sips drinks.
This disease is so evil isn't it......I can't relax and jump every time the phone rings. yet attempting to be christmassy for my family and the children I care for [Im a childminder].
I almost just want her to go to sleep...is that a bad thing to think??shes just not mum anymore. she wouldn't want to be like this.
trying to be practical ...I've arranged a funeral plan as I have poa,.. cleared some of her old clothes as she is in nighties all the time....just feel I have to do things so I can cope.
thanks for reading.
I haven't been on the forum for several years but feel I need a rant/let off steam as life feels challenging and scary at the moment....
My mum who is almost 79 has vascular dementia and has been in a lovely care home for the last two years.
Since the beginning of october we have had a huge dip in all her cognative skills..then she was in hospital with a mega chest and urine infection for 9 days which amazingly she recovered from and then went back to the home for what is being classed as end of life care........
She is in bed all the time, has suddenly stopped recognising me and is eating very little. she looks like a skeleton.
I have had a good chat with the GP and she is now not for resuscitation and there are some drugs which the district nurse can give if she becomes agitated. At the moment she is very comfy..she hears things when you come in the room but there is very little speech and she just sips drinks.
This disease is so evil isn't it......I can't relax and jump every time the phone rings. yet attempting to be christmassy for my family and the children I care for [Im a childminder].
I almost just want her to go to sleep...is that a bad thing to think??shes just not mum anymore. she wouldn't want to be like this.
trying to be practical ...I've arranged a funeral plan as I have poa,.. cleared some of her old clothes as she is in nighties all the time....just feel I have to do things so I can cope.
thanks for reading.