all his normal underwear had been hidden.
Don't give a choice - stick pads in pants, or remove normal pants and only leave pull ups
Or get a nurse in uniform to try to convince her
I found the phrase.." The Doctor said....." worked wonders with my Mum. She belonged to the generation who respected and believed every word a GP said.
Try " the Doctor recommends that all his elderly lady patients wear these. There's a very nasty bug about and these prevent you catching it"
Hi clevers, just wanted to acknowledge your post, at this stage I don't have experience of this problem with both my mum and mum in law, however I believe your mum could be assessed by an incontinence nurse, have a chat with mums GP to see what they advise you to do, I am sure someone will be along here who has lots of information or advice to help you.
Take care
Chris
I had a similar problem, at night I use the bed pads and then put the sheet over, it save the mattress, but does mean washing sheet and pad. Day time it was hit and miss, I tried every pads or pull up pants available, some days it's a battle, it cost a fortune trying different products and it took a few months but now my partner accepts, but for the routine moan every morning.My Mum wets her bed every night and is incontinent throughout the day. Our carer and I have tried to persuade her to wear pull-ups but Mum won't and says she doesn't need them. What can we do?
if you know this is the case, there's nothing to stop you finding a new care home for your mum - it wouldn't be a reflection on your relationship, just an acknowledgement that your mum needs a team of carers to provide the level of care she now needsit's the biggest mistake we could of made .
How did it go when you hid the underwear? I am at that stage myself now as my m-i-l doesn't "need" pads... I have had a number of episodes recently where I have been retching dealing with the soiled underwear and girdle which she insists on wearing. Wet underwear I can just about handle but the other...Even my lovely compliant OH said "I am not wearing THAT!", when first confronted with pull-ups. He soon got over it though, mainly because I gave him no choice - all his normal underwear had been hidden.