Mum is beyond convincing now really, but I did get the district nurse in earlier to no effect, I'm afraid.Don't give a choice - stick pads in pants, or remove normal pants and only leave pull ups
Or get a nurse in uniform to try to convince her
Good idea cragmaid . I will try a version of 'the doctor said' again......and will also try to re-boot the system of the carers and myself all saying exactly the same thing.... xxI found the phrase.." The Doctor said....." worked wonders with my Mum. She belonged to the generation who respected and believed every word a GP said.
Try " the Doctor recommends that all his elderly lady patients wear these. There's a very nasty bug about and these prevent you catching it"
Hi clevers, just wanted to acknowledge your post, at this stage I don't have experience of this problem with both my mum and mum in law, however I believe your mum could be assessed by an incontinence nurse, have a chat with mums GP to see what they advise you to do, I am sure someone will be along here who has lots of information or advice to help you.
I had a similar problem, at night I use the bed pads and then put the sheet over, it save the mattress, but does mean washing sheet and pad. Day time it was hit and miss, I tried every pads or pull up pants available, some days it's a battle, it cost a fortune trying different products and it took a few months but now my partner accepts, but for the routine moan every morning.My Mum wets her bed every night and is incontinent throughout the day. Our carer and I have tried to persuade her to wear pull-ups but Mum won't and says she doesn't need them. What can we do?
if you know this is the case, there's nothing to stop you finding a new care home for your mum - it wouldn't be a reflection on your relationship, just an acknowledgement that your mum needs a team of carers to provide the level of care she now needsit's the biggest mistake we could of made .
How did it go when you hid the underwear? I am at that stage myself now as my m-i-l doesn't "need" pads... I have had a number of episodes recently where I have been retching dealing with the soiled underwear and girdle which she insists on wearing. Wet underwear I can just about handle but the other...Even my lovely compliant OH said "I am not wearing THAT!", when first confronted with pull-ups. He soon got over it though, mainly because I gave him no choice - all his normal underwear had been hidden.