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mum passed away, free at last of the torment of this illness

Discussion in 'After dementia — dealing with loss' started by gillybean, Feb 14, 2015.

  1. gillybean

    gillybean Registered User

    Jan 17, 2007
    420
    Sad how I've moved from one section to another in each forum and finally I'm here with much sadness and relief if I'm being honest.
    Another chapter, still feeling shocked even though it was expected... She passed away tonight...

    I was with her and it was a peaceful experience.. And I'm glad I was there for her....
     
  2. Soobee

    Soobee Registered User

    Aug 22, 2009
    2,734
    South
    sorry to read this. My condolences. Hope that it brings you comfort that you were there with her.
     
  3. Sweet

    Sweet Registered User

    Jun 16, 2014
    72
    Thinking of you gillybean.

    I had the same feelings, relief and shock ... and hard to believe my lovely mum had passed away.

    My thoughts are with you x
     
  4. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    59,590
    Female
    Dundee
    I'm sorry to read your news. Thinking of you and sending condolences. x
     
  5. polly1

    polly1 Registered User

    Dec 8, 2011
    306
    Hampshire
    So sorry to hear the sad news. Thinking of you and sending condolences.
    Your dear Mum is at peace, and you will find peace too.
     
  6. Ash148

    Ash148 Registered User

    Jan 1, 2014
    276
    Dublin, Ireland
    My condolences Gillybean. Glad it was peaceful at the end.
     
  7. Tin

    Tin Registered User

    May 18, 2014
    4,826
    UK
    So sorry gillybean, your head must be all over the place at the moment. Take care.
     
  8. gillybean

    gillybean Registered User

    Jan 17, 2007
    420
    Thank you all, I have to tell my daughter when she comes him home, not looking forward to that but I'm sure she'll be fine.
    I feel guilty for feeling relieved, is this right?
     
  9. Anongirl

    Anongirl Registered User

    Aug 8, 2012
    2,675
    So sorry Gillybean. I can understand how you feel xxx
     
  10. grobertson62

    grobertson62 Registered User

    Mar 7, 2011
    581
    Sheffield
    So sorry for your loss.
    Dont feel guilty for feeling relieved.its understandable. I did too
     
  11. Sweet

    Sweet Registered User

    Jun 16, 2014
    72
    I think you'll have a whole range of emotions.
    Relief after living with dementia.
    Sadness, I miss her so much.
    Guilt for some of my negative thoughts through the illness
    Love, an overwhelming feeling of wanting to physically see her one more time.

    Thoughts are with you x
     
  12. nellbelles

    nellbelles Volunteer Host

    Nov 6, 2008
    8,403
    leicester
    My condolences to you all, stay strong x
     
  13. SisterAct

    SisterAct Registered User

    So sorry for your loss Gillybean.
    Thinking of you all.
    Luv
    Polly x
     
  14. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,572
    Kent
    Don`t feel guilty gillybean. Your mother will be illness free and peaceful now. You are relieved for her.
     
  15. Feline

    Feline Registered User

    Oct 25, 2012
    164
    East Devon
    My condolences to you , it must have been such a comfort to her, knowing you were there with her right to the end.
    Sent with love
     
  16. Lindy50

    Lindy50 Registered User

    Dec 11, 2013
    5,302
    Cotswolds
    I'm so sorry to hear your news, gillybean. I do understand that you feel some relief, which I think is only natural, given how your mum has suffered.

    I am sure you will feel a whole gamut of emotions, none are more valid than any other.

    I am so glad your mum's end was peaceful and that you were able to be with her.

    Sending you love and (((hugs))), and strength for the days ahead

    Lindy xx
     
  17. Ash148

    Ash148 Registered User

    Jan 1, 2014
    276
    Dublin, Ireland
    Feeling relieved makes total sense.
     
  18. lin1

    lin1 Registered User

    Jan 14, 2010
    9,322
    Female
    East Kent
    So sorry Gillybean.
     
  19. MrsTerryN

    MrsTerryN Registered User

    Dec 17, 2012
    773
    I am sorry for the loss of your mother to dementia
     
  20. LYN T

    LYN T Registered User

    Aug 30, 2012
    6,968
    Brixham Devon
    I'm so sorry to read your news gillybean. As your title says your Mum is free at last

    Sending my condolences to you

    Lyn T X
     

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